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My oh my, but this thread has been interesting to read! Lots more interesting ideas and advice than I ever imagined would be received, and lots of insight into how we (men and women) think!
I just came from a forum where I posted an (apparently) unpopular opinion and got slammed into the dirt by other women. I don't get this. Is it not possible to disagree with others without turning it into a personal attack?
Is there not room in the world for different opinions? And why oh why, are women so downright mean to each other?
Why do women say things to virtual strangers over the internet that they would never in a million years say in person? Are we all *that* angry that we use the 'net as our outlet to attack and malign one another?
My thought is, you have NO idea what the poor soul on the other side of that computer screen in going through. You have no idea how hard their life may be. You don't know how many burdens they have in their real life.
What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?
Why are women so mean to other women???
It's because women rarely get into physical fights on the street. It's mostly just verbal but in rare cases goes knuckle to knuckle. Or should I say hair to hair? Men don't do it nearly as much if notice. Take this board for an example. How many men do you see going at it? Not many. Guys get punched out for that in real life and tend to behave or act accordingly.
I just came from a forum where I posted an (apparently) unpopular opinion and got slammed into the dirt by other women. I don't get this. Is it not possible to disagree with others without turning it into a personal attack?
Is there not room in the world for different opinions? And why oh why, are women so downright mean to each other?
Why do women say things to virtual strangers over the internet that they would never in a million years say in person? Are we all *that* angry that we use the 'net as our outlet to attack and malign one another?
My thought is, you have NO idea what the poor soul on the other side of that computer screen in going through. You have no idea how hard their life may be. You don't know how many burdens they have in their real life.
What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?
Why are women so mean to other women???
Rosemary, sending you a hug from here.
I haven't read the responses yet so I don't know if this was said by anyone else -- for some women, their high school "Mean Girl" persona is not very far below the surface. Given the chance they will gang up, exclude, talk behind your back (using the PM or whatever), use the winkies when referring to someone, etc. Internet forums are just infested with this.
As someone who tends to have 'outlier'-type opinions, I have had this happen. But also, I see it in real life. It's incredible that grown women can be so childish sometimes, using their kids (birthday parties, playgroups, etc) to get back at other women, or using their positions at work as petty cliques, etc. Even in face-to-face relationships, I do think that women say things to each other that are calculated to hurt.
Here's a theory: I think American society has taken a huge step back in civility by the behavior on TV -- either confrontational 'bare your soul' talk shows or reality TV. I have actually heard women in the workplace say "I'm not here to make friends.", like they say on "The Apprentice". (and it excuses something they've done that's particularly evil).
I'm sorry you've been party to this, and the only thing I can tell you is please try to not take it to heart. Just because they say 'this and that' doesn't make it true.
I just came from a forum where I posted an (apparently) unpopular opinion and got slammed into the dirt by other women. I don't get this. Is it not possible to disagree with others without turning it into a personal attack?
Is there not room in the world for different opinions? And why oh why, are women so downright mean to each other?
Why do women say things to virtual strangers over the internet that they would never in a million years say in person? Are we all *that* angry that we use the 'net as our outlet to attack and malign one another?
My thought is, you have NO idea what the poor soul on the other side of that computer screen in going through. You have no idea how hard their life may be. You don't know how many burdens they have in their real life.
What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?
Why are women so mean to other women???
How do you know it was women being so mean.There's no way to tell gender on these forums unless the poster lets you know. I don't understand anyone who would go on a forum and then personally attack someone because they have a difference of opinion...but they do...I know, in the last week I've received 2 insulting personal messages...it's not nice.
I just came from a forum where I posted an (apparently) unpopular opinion and got slammed into the dirt by other women. I don't get this. Is it not possible to disagree with others without turning it into a personal attack?
Is there not room in the world for different opinions? And why oh why, are women so downright mean to each other?
Why do women say things to virtual strangers over the internet that they would never in a million years say in person? Are we all *that* angry that we use the 'net as our outlet to attack and malign one another?
My thought is, you have NO idea what the poor soul on the other side of that computer screen in going through. You have no idea how hard their life may be. You don't know how many burdens they have in their real life.
What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?
I think someone attacks someone else/talks about someone negatively, etc. primarily because they are insecure about themselves. Women need to get more in touch with and accept who they are as individuals and value what they have to give others before this will ever change. However, that is really hard work and people in general tend not to take personal growth very seriously. They forsake it for the outward drama that often provides them with falsely positive attention...a poor substitute for the love and respect that they fail to give to themselves. I think this is why some women are so mean to one another in almost all circumstances. It's very sad, because we all have something extremely valuable to offer and once that is discovered and nurtured, it is rare to feel the need for that sort of negative, personally-based confrontation with anyone.
I think it is because we still are not taught to develop our self esteem by our works and who we are on the inside rather than our physical outward appearance. Women ( and some men) have a real problem with a self confident women, usually a particular name is applied.
Why are women so mean to one another? Take your pick. You can even take more than one.
1. Not enough orgasms
2. Bored with their life
3. Regret past decisions
4. Opportunity to flex power and influence when none exists elsewhere in their lives
5. Not enough orgasms
6. Low self esteem
7. Dysfunctional background
8. Jealousy
9. Lack self control
10. Just evil
11. too much alike
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Men don't do it nearly as much if notice. Take this board for an example. How many men do you see going at it? Not many.
Guys get punched out for that in real life and tend to behave or act accordingly.
