He forgot something important to me. (how to, female, loving, call)
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I lost count of the time she mentioned how he's on vacation and barely works. I got the impression that she thinks he's lazy and inattentive. Why stay with someone like that?
It is not ok that he was disaffected by her feelings about her job being endangered. This is a big red flag. He sounds like the type of guy that has to be told what to do in a relationship or he will turn into that someday.
I don't think it's just a male thing (we have to stop with that), it's a insensitivity thing. A caring guy would be worried about her situation and be waiting to hear the news either way. It is not the same as forgetting a birthday, anniversary or past event. It is showing appropriate concern for something that is currently happening to the person you love.
Am I overreacting? What should I do? Am I right to feel like this?
Definitely.
This is something that drives us men nuts about some of you women. Every comment or lack of a comment is an issue. Every issue is a major crisis. Drama, trauma, and turmoil.
Is the relationship basically well. Does he treat you well? Is he a good person? You got the job. In the big picture you came out ahead. Count your blessings and be satisfied. Would you have preferred you didn't get the job but he did ask about your review?
That's it exactly. It was important to YOU. I can understand your frustration but in your bf's defense, it may not have been such a big deal to him. People react differently to situations and I am sure you understand one's perception of things may not be anothers.
After 3 1/2 years, you should know what type of man he is. Surely after all of this time he has done this before? If not, then consider yourself LUCKY.
At the very least, you should tell him it would have been nice to ask you about your day since you offered to hear about his. I hope he apologizes and you guys can move forward.
Congratulations on your job and I wish you the best!
I think you're overreacting. Though I might feel the same way as you do.
But if you were making a big deal out of it for the last few days, he probably expected you to just gush and tell him right off the bat. The fact that you let him talk for a while probably led him to the assumption that you didn't have any news at that point.
Definitely.
This is something that drives us men nuts about some of you women. Every comment or lack of a comment is an issue. Every issue is a major crisis. Drama, trauma, and turmoil.
Is the relationship basically well. Does he treat you well? Is he a good person? You got the job. In the big picture you came out ahead. Count your blessings and be satisfied. Would you have preferred you didn't get the job but he did ask about your review?
Exactly. Spot on. It's as if they got this "little test" going on and want to set us up to fail. Baffling.
Many guys... think that women are overly emotional and full of drama.
Do ya think?
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Originally Posted by miu
See... right now you should be very happy with the outcome of your work review, but YOU'VE chosen to become unhappy about your boyfriend's lack of concern over it.
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Originally Posted by NY Annie
Wow, you've been hit with 3 sides to this "problem" and very little consensus except "men and women are different" - well, yah, but that doesn't solve the issue....
There is no issue except in the head of the OP.
WHY was there a two-minute pause in the conversation after he told you about his day? WHY should he have to ask you about it? It was on your mind. TELL HIM!!!
Gawd, this is so lame! Here's a little hint for you: If you've got something to say, say it. That two-minute pause would have been an excellent time for you to actually say something.
Yes, you're over-reacting. Yes, you were setting him up to fail your little test. The next time you're going to test him, tell him there will be a test and maybe he'll be ready for it. Sheesh!
Last edited by WyoNewk; 01-06-2010 at 10:02 AM..
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Do ya think?
