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Old 01-09-2010, 05:23 PM
 
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Ok, so I recently had a date with someone who was easily the hottest (non-celebrity) guy I've ever seen. It's possible that I just live in a town full of unattractive dudes, but this guy is INCREDIBLE. It was only our first date, so I don't know him very well, but I can't imagine that he doesn't have women lusting after him wherever he goes. He is 110% my physical type- I wouldn't change a thing about him.

As for myself, I'm cute, but kind of shy and not really one to flaunt my assets. The guys I've dated in the past have been averagely cute and more on the shy side also. This guy also seems really down to earth and not aware of how attractive he is, but I can't help but notice it!

Anyway, I know this isn't something I should be worried about, but how do you get over the initial shock of dating someone so gorgeous? How do you deal with feeling like they may be out of your "league", so to speak?
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:30 PM
 
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The first thing to do is try to look past the looks and get to know the person. Sometimes people tend to overlook things because they are hot for the person. I dated a model once and she was high maintenance, conceited, selfish and a cheat! If he is still is a great person after you have done this, I would give the green light?
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:30 PM
 
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All of my past girlfriends were very good looking. Couldn't go anywhere without the usual stares and occasional comments. There is nothing you should do. When you start thinking you are outclassed by your date, then that is the moment your date starts thinking that too.

Just be glad you snagged a good one and stop worrying about it.
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:34 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Anyway, I know this isn't something I should be worried about, but how do you get over the initial shock of dating someone so gorgeous? How do you deal with feeling like they may be out of your "league", so to speak?



First of all, I don't really believe in the 'out of your league' thing. I do believe in different worlds and not having enough things in common because of it (as well as different perspectives on the world and how to plan and conduct your life). But don't pin your 'league' status on something as fleeting and subjective as looks.

Second of all, like many beautiful women, I'd bet there are plenty of gorgeous men who want someone to like them for what they have to offer as a person rather than just their looks.

Looks also fade quickly once someone opens their mouth, I've discovered. There is nothing less attractive than any person who is obviously a complete dolt or an arrogant jackass. One of my exes was super-hot and accomplished and had even done modeling on the side (while working on a Harvard PhD in molecular biology), but she was a completely embittered, psycho relationship terrorist.
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:36 PM
 
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All of my past girlfriends were very good looking. Couldn't go anywhere without the usual stares and occasional comments. There is nothing you should do. When you start thinking you are outclassed by your date, then that is the moment your date starts thinking that too.

Just be glad you snagged a good one and stop worrying about it.
I was cool with that though. Yeah, yeah look at me!LOL........ OMG dude, your girl is smoking hot! Yeah, I know! Too bad she didn't have the personality though.
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:37 PM
 
Location: Savannah, GA
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Wow, I can't believe I'm hearing this from a woman. It's usually the other way around.
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:43 PM
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went out with a girl that was very close to being a perfect 10. tiny waist, large rack, nice ass, cute face, long dark hair.

she was a ***** tho...
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:45 PM
 
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I was cool with that though. Yeah, yeah look at me!LOL........ OMG dude, your girl is smoking hot! Yeah, I know! Too bad she didn't have the personality though.
Yeah, actually had a brief break up with the ex a couple summers ago and dated a gorgeous girl who did have personality and brains, but then of course I did the stupid thing and went back with the ex.

Define 'regret'.

I know what you're saying though, it's nice knowing the lady your with is desirable.
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:49 PM
 
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It was a shame this one didn't know what she had. Her Dad and I would sit for hours and listen to music and I really liked him. After we broke up he called me for the next few weeks, telling me he didn't know what her problem was and apologized over and over again. That just goes to show you, the family can't be the only reason to stay with someone.
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:52 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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Default Default Have You Ever Dated Someone Who Was TOO Gorgeous?

Yeah. Once. When I was just out of college and working at a record store, I went out a couple of times with a co-worker that was really gorgeous. I liked him a lot, he was a great person inside, but I never really felt comfortable around him. So we stayed just friends.
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