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So what you really mean is...you are jealous of them. LOL.
I guess so. It's either that or the occasional friend. I had a friend that would keep on crying about her break-up for about a month but I bet if I were to do the same, she would have said ''I'm busy, call me later'' or invent any excuse to hang up. They expect you to be there for them but they won't do the same. So I'm out of luck on that one.
There is something more annoying is your parents trying to said they are your best friends but I don't like sharing everything with them. That's not enough. I would be more cool with people within my age rank...
The main result why writing in a forum somewhat helps out and from then on, it's me finding the solution and solve it on my own... I hate that but oh well....
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It's not possible to have many friends. You can be friendly with a lot of people but it's not good to call every Tom, Dick and Harry a friend because you have to invest time with people in order for friendship to develop. I don't consider everyone friend material without having to pass my rigorous testing process.
I'd say a good base to become popular is to be open and friendly to all, that way people would respect you and be more willing to consider you a friend.
What if you have tried that for years and still no results?
It comes naturally for me. I'm a decent looking guy and my genuine personally, kindness and loyalty wins them over every time. A good looking guy with a personality to match. Rugged
Good for you... I can be trying that for x more years and no results so it must be something I'm doing wrong.... maybe...
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It comes naturally for me. I'm a decent looking guy and my genuine personally, kindness and loyalty wins them over every time. A good looking guy with a personality to match. Rugged
well said RUGGED, and this is a big part of the attraction which draws people to someone..
I believe that some people are born with traits which naturally attract. I mean surely, part of it has to do with how you are raised, and how you are taught to believe in yourself..but, i think it also starts from birth..Some babies naturally draw more attention than others.. Having 3 nieces, i can tell who will be the extrovert..and who will be more shy around others..
So how is some people have many friends (not acquaintances nor just friends but best friends you can rely upon)?
That must be cool sometimes... your close friends being there if there is something bothering you. I guess that's what friends are for.
I can't stand overly popular people. They always have it so easy.
I think people can sense when you want to become their friend just so you can have a wide circle of friends. No one likes being used.
I keep my inner circle close. These are all people that I wouldn't mind living with and can talk to for 8 hours without a single pause. I used to invite anyone I "had fun and got along with" into my inner circle, but that easily proved to be a bad, bad idea. Close friendships take effort and commitments. You have to give of yourself emotionally a lot of the time. That can be tiring when you have 10 close friends. I've always believed in quality over quantity.
Now, if we're talking about casual friends and acquaintances, the sky's the limit! I always welcome new people with a friendly smile and open arms!
Popularity isn't all it's cracked up to be. Friendships take work and I get overwhlemed when too many people want a piece of my time. I've been both popular and a loner at different points in my life, and I never sought popularity it just sort of happened. It was easier to become more of a loner when I was married and raising my family but now that the kids are grown and I'm divorcing I have to do things to make friends again...and I've gotten kind of lazy and selfish with my time so it's not easy.
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