Note that there is no guarantee I am correct, there are always two sides to a story.
If you genuinely feel he deserves better, then you have two choices.
1, try to stop being posessive, and
GIVE him better.
It will not be easy for you, but it can be done. Sit him down, and explain to him
EXACTLY how you feel. See how well he understands, and see if the two of you can come to some kind of a compromise. You
can work through these issues together.
It will require patience on both your parts. you will need to learn to let him go, and to trust him to come back to you.
He will require to understand you are experiencing some disturbing feelings, and may occasionally get it wrong, or over react.
It will be a test of your relationship, and your feelings for each other.
However, word to the wise, you should no more expect him to give up his pastimes, and friends for you, than he can expect you to stop feeling the way you do overnight.
Effective communication is the key.
Given time, it will also prove whether you were right to be suspicious.
As part of the process of letting him go, you will effectively give him rope, and see if he hangs himself.
If that is the case, then feel free to come back and say "i told you so"
or, you have choice two.
just accept that you are not ready for this relationship, and let go.
Nobody can make up your mind for you, you have not given us anything to work with about the relative health of your relationship, so only you can judge whether it is good enough to save.
we can only judge this situation.
either way, i wish you luck.
Being jealous is not something we choose, it is something which is forced on us by others. it can be an ex, a family member, parents, anything.
it does not mean you are a bad person, it just means you have identified an area you need to work on.
Trust me, I speak from experience. whether this relationship works out or not, if you can learn to deal with your jealousy (you can't ever cure it, you can only learn to manage it), you'll be in a much better place.
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Originally Posted by sad817326
Well, I think after reading Bobman's post, I feel like I'm the one who did something very wrong. I don't want to be his jealous possesive girlfriend. I think he deserves better.
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