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So anyway, he asks this chick if it's OK with a friend (me) to come along and meet up with her. He told her a little about me & she said it was OK. It was a meet & greet and not an actual date, so it wasn't that weird tagging along. Anyway, I brought my laptop with me & was just going to play on the internet while they chatted.
We get there and he spots her at a table. He was nervous & he shook her hand. Then he introduced me to her and we all sat down. Him and I sat next to each other & she was on the opposite side of the table. Appearance-wise, this girl didn't even look as good as her photos suggested (I suspect they were photoshopped up pretty well). I pull out my laptop and get it going while they begin talking. Immediately things begin to get weird. She indirectly hits on me, telling my friend that I'm really hot & that she's glad I came along. That felt weird & I said "Three's a crowd, I can leave you two alone if you want." They both said "No it's OK stay" but she adds on "Three's not a crowd, I know just how to handle two guys at once." I just pretended not to hear that and turned my attention to my laptop. I opened up Microsoft Word and slightly turned my laptop to where my friend could see it. Anyway, they continued to talk & he tells her that she seems pretty nice & she's like "Oh thanks, people either say I'm the sweetest girl in the world, or they say I'm the coldest ***** they've ever met." I put my font up big on Word and type "Ask her why she says that?" He sees what I typed and asked her. She replied "I've dated too many *******s, so I just don't care if I break hearts or make a guy cry, but don't worry if you don't slip up you'll be OK." I type on my screen "I think this chick is LOONEY TUNES!" Then I noticed him playing with his phone & then all of a sudden I get an IM from him saying "Now that I've met her, I think you may be right." I try my hardest not to laugh. They talk a bit more & this girl starts getting into some sexually related converstation. I wanted to have a little fun, so I type on my screen "Ask her what's the wildest/craziest thing she's ever done." He asks her and she tells him about a time when she let a bunch of guys run a train on her at a party. He asked her how many & she said "I don't remember, I was pretty drunk, but my friend said it was 12 or 15." My friend had a bit of a shocked look on his face. I typed to him on my screen "What a dirty w***e." He IM'd me and replied "Yeah, that's really pretty gross." I'm trying not to laugh and this girl is starting to get frustrated b/c I think she was beginning to sense something was up. He then IM's me and says, "I'll be right back." Then he gets up and tells her the same thing. Her and I both are a bit perplexed and wondering wtf was going on. So her and I talk a bit while waiting for him to return & I'm only halfway listening to the verbal diarrhea coming out of her mouth. She was telling me she wants to be a marriage counselor since she was nearly done with her Ph.D and I was thinking "Oh boy lol" Then she says after that she wants to be a surgeon. I say "Wow, you have to be pretty smart then." She replies "Hell yeah, I have an IQ of 160, there isn't anything I don't know." I'm sitting there thinking "Yep, narcissist." 20 minutes pass and my friend is still not back, and right about that time she asks if he's coming back or not. I told her that I didn't know. She says "That's OK then, you and I can hang out." I'm thinking "Hell no" and start thinking of an exit plan. I IM my friend and ask "Where the hell are you?" He IM's back and says "Sorry, you were right, I couldn't stand her any longer and oh by the way, sorry for sticking you with her." I reply back "Glad you saw the light, but I'm gonna kill you for leaving me stuck with her!" Anyway, I just tell this girl that my wife and I are going to dinner in a while so I had to go. She says "Since I'm going to be a marriage counselor, I have a question for you." I say OK. She asks "Are you both in an open marriage?" I say "Nope, we aren't into any of that crazy stuff." She says "Well that's too bad since your friend isn't interested b/c I'd totally f*ck you in the parking lot in the back of my SUV."
I just get up and say "Nah, I'd rahter not have my junk turn green and fall off."
Wow, what a piece of work!!!
My friend still says he wished it could have worked with her though. I told him, just move on and forget it.
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I think you and your friend have a very strange dynamic going on. I mean the guy is 28yo! It is an invasion of the females privacy for you to be privy to all the nitty gritty details of their interaction. At most, you should have had access to her profile and been available to your friend as a sounding board. Accordingly, he would tell you the information about this female that he thought was relevant to his decision making and you would give feedback.
You need to back off. You are too enmeshed in his life. Step back. All you can do is be his friend and offer warnings. It is time for you to let this man grow up. It makes me wonder about other aspects of your relationship which might be problematic. It is not a healthy dynamic. There are not enough personal boundaries. It is not your right to control anyone.
I think you and your friend have a very strange dynamic going on. I mean the guy is 28yo! It is an invasion of the females privacy for you to be privy to all the nitty gritty details of their interaction. At most, you should have had access to her profile and been available to your friend as a sounding board. Accordingly, he would tell you the information about this female that he thought was relevant to his decision making and you would give feedback.
You need to back off. You are too enmeshed in his life. Step back. All you can do is be his friend and offer warnings. It is time for you to let this man grow up. It makes me wonder about other aspects of your relationship which might be problematic. It is not a healthy dynamic. There are not enough personal boundaries. It is not your right to control anyone.
FYI, he asked for my help, advice, and input. I didn't do anything more than what he requested.
Would you have given a to this chick for a friend of yours? lol
Location: Melbourne, Victoria, Australia, The World!
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Originally Posted by zoomzoom3
FYI, he asked for my help, advice, and input. I didn't do anything more than what he requested.
Would you have given a to this chick for a friend of yours? lol
"Lol." Is that like nervous laughter or a disarming tacting you use after potentially offending someone in writing?
My comment was not addressed to you. I wonder why you felt provoked to the point of responding?
The original poster was asking if us if we agreed that he should try to stop his friend from meeting an online woman. My concern was about the type of relationship he had with this friend as evident in his post. "Should I stop" is strong wording. He had already adamantly discouraged his friend from meeting the online stranger, whereas the subtext suggests he should stop himself from pathologically controlling his friend.
My friend is absolutely enthralled with this girl and has put her high up on a pedestal. They both tell each other that they are soulmates and are destined to be together. She gives him a lot of attention and texts him a lot to tell him she's thinking of him and that she misses him.
The things you mention are all red flags, but frankly I think this is an equally serious issue. Any adult who says stuff like this to someone they have not even really met is, I think, someone who has a lot to learn about relationships. And I say that at someone who has plenty to learn himself.
FYI, he asked for my help, advice, and input. I didn't do anything more than what he requested.
Would you have given a to this chick for a friend of yours? lol
Ignore him. He's got it in his head that men are supposed to be some White Knights charging to the rescue of all women everywhere, regardless of whether or not they need or even deserve being "rescued". Chalk it up as the mangina version of chivalry, aka Capt Save-a-ho.
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Originally Posted by Lost&Found
"Lol." Is that like nervous laughter or a disarming tacting you use after potentially offending someone in writing?
My comment was not addressed to you. I wonder why you felt provoked to the point of responding?
The original poster was asking if us if we agreed that he should try to stop his friend from meeting an online woman. My concern was about the type of relationship he had with this friend as evident in his post. "Should I stop" is strong wording. He had already adamantly discouraged his friend from meeting the online stranger, whereas the subtext suggests he should stop himself from pathologically controlling his friend.
zoomzoom3 is the original poster!
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I just pretended not to hear that and turned my attention to my laptop. I opened up Microsoft Word and slightly turned my laptop to where my friend could see it. Anyway, they continued to talk & he tells her that she seems pretty nice & she's like "Oh thanks, people either say I'm the sweetest girl in the world, or they say I'm the coldest ***** they've ever met." I put my font up big on Word and type "Ask her why she says that?" He sees what I typed and asked her. She replied "I've dated too many *******s, so I just don't care if I break hearts or make a guy cry, but don't worry if you don't slip up you'll be OK." I type on my screen "I think this chick is LOONEY TUNES!" Then I noticed him playing with his phone & then all of a sudden I get an IM from him saying "Now that I've met her, I think you may be right." I try my hardest not to laugh. They talk a bit more & this girl starts getting into some sexually related converstation. I wanted to have a little fun, so I type on my screen "Ask her what's the wildest/craziest thing she's ever done." He asks her and she tells him about a time when she let a bunch of guys run a train on her at a party. He asked her how many & she said "I don't remember, I was pretty drunk, but my friend said it was 12 or 15." My friend had a bit of a shocked look on his face. I typed to him on my screen "What a dirty w***e." He IM'd me and replied "Yeah, that's really pretty gross." I'm trying not to laugh and this girl is starting to get frustrated b/c I think she was beginning to sense something was up. He then IM's me and says, "I'll be right back." Then he gets up and tells her the same thing. Her and I both are a bit perplexed and wondering wtf was going on. So her and I talk a bit while waiting for him to return & I'm only halfway listening to the verbal diarrhea coming out of her mouth. She was telling me she wants to be a marriage counselor since she was nearly done with her Ph.D and I was thinking "Oh boy lol" Then she says after that she wants to be a surgeon. I say "Wow, you have to be pretty smart then." She replies "Hell yeah, I have an IQ of 160, there isn't anything I don't know." I'm sitting there thinking "Yep, narcissist." 20 minutes pass and my friend is still not back, and right about that time she asks if he's coming back or not. I told her that I didn't know. She says "That's OK then, you and I can hang out." I'm thinking "Hell no" and start thinking of an exit plan. I IM my friend and ask "Where the hell are you?" He IM's back and says "Sorry, you were right, I couldn't stand her any longer and oh by the way, sorry for sticking you with her." I reply back "Glad you saw the light, but I'm gonna kill you for leaving me stuck with her!" Anyway, I just tell this girl that my wife and I are going to dinner in a while so I had to go. She says "Since I'm going to be a marriage counselor, I have a question for you." I say OK. She asks "Are you both in an open marriage?" I say "Nope, we aren't into any of that crazy stuff." She says "Well that's too bad since your friend isn't interested b/c I'd totally f*ck you in the parking lot in the back of my SUV." 
I told him, just move on and forget it.
to this chick for a friend of yours? lol
