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I just turned 48 on Sunday. I happen to look around 32-35. I've been divorced for 10 years with one 8 year relationship during the 10. I don't care how the phone number exchange goes. I have no idea how the world dates anymore but to me it seems like anything goes. My xhusband's 2nd wife went after him & got herself a doctor. Apparently, it really doesn't matter who chases who, just make the effort & cut the BS.
True. I think part of it is an age thing. I think around that age group, everyone cuts the BS and goes for it. In the 18-25 range, it is a bit more crazy.
So, why not just go through life with the attitude, "If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, then so what?"?
That's my approach.
Of course, I've been accused of being too analytical by folks who are more emotional or "romantic" than I am, but hey, not everyone thinks relationships are the be-all and end-all of human existence.
If it happens, great. If not, well, great, too. Each option has its advantages and disadvantages, and what matters is whether you are happy. I can be happy alone. I can also be happy with a good relationship. That's really all there is to it.
True. I think part of it is an age thing. I think around that age group, everyone cuts the BS and goes for it. In the 18-25 range, it is a bit more crazy.
Hi pirate_lafitte,
Interesting though that at that age range, we are the most reproductive. Perhaps the BS has a purpose.
Of course, I've been accused of being too analytical by folks who are more emotional or "romantic" than I am, but hey, not everyone thinks relationships are the be-all and end-all of human existence.
If it happens, great. If not, well, great, too. Each option has its advantages and disadvantages, and what matters is whether you are happy. I can be happy alone. I can also be happy with a good relationship. That's really all there is to it.
people seem to be REALLY averse to this notion...I havent encountered many people who can grasp the notion that: Yes, life can be enjoyed without a romantic relationship..
No one is entitled to love, nor relationships..so I dont understand the big fuss over being single and/or choosing to be single. Im not saying that I think being single is always better than being in a relationship...just as I dont think that the inverse is true either.
Ya hafta understand that for some of us who are seasoned citizens, pursuing a woman is totally dependent upon her standing still long enough for us to catch up with her.
I wouldn't know what the purpose for the BS is. At this point, all I can do is try.
Hi pirate_lafitte,
sophilee in this forum tried to dispense with the "games" and decided to be more friendly and said "hi" to a man at a supermarket. He relentlessly hounded her. Roses have thorns.
Beautiful women and movie stars need all manner of games to attenuate the attention. Animals behave in dances and rituals to see if a mate is suitable. Do you expect to just create human beings as conveniently as possible? Do you think it is not helpful to see if your mate works well under stress?
When a man complains of "games" it is because he does not want to go through the trouble of impressing her, and she should just pry her legs open for his pleasure. 9 months later her reward may be a 3 eyed idiot as her beloved spawn.
sophilee in this forum tried to dispense with the "games" and decided to be more friendly and said "hi" to a man at a supermarket. He relentlessly hounded her. Roses have thorns.
Beautiful women and movie stars need all manner of games to attenuate the attention. Animals behave in dances and rituals to see if a mate is suitable. Do you expect to just create human beings as conveniently as possible? Do you think it is not helpful to see if your mate works well under stress?
When a man complains of "games" it is because he does not want to go through the trouble of impressing her, and she should just pry her legs open for his pleasure. 9 months later her reward may be a 3 eyed idiot as her beloved spawn.
By the same token, the woman should make sure she's worth impressing. It's stupid for women to think that men should have to put in work to impress them when 9 times out of 10, they aren't worth impressing
By the same token, the woman should make sure she's worth impressing. It's stupid for women to think that men should have to put in work to impress them when 9 times out of 10, they aren't worth impressing
What you and gwynedd1 say applies to both males and females. Interesting when you think about it. We have to have an ego to put ourselves out there in the first place. "I'm an 8 and worthy of asking you out." The other side is I'm a 4 and want you an 8 to go out with me? That becomes an insult. But without that ego (or confidence) what happens?
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Why don't men pursue women anymore?
Seems it only happens in the movies.
