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Old 01-18-2010, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Old Orchard Beach
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So I started dating this girl whom has lots of "guy" friends. My experience in the past has shown me several times that this is always a mistake, in fact it has ALWAYS been the case that the guy friends turn into flings and I have never seen it another way. What bothers me is I always get the light version of the story about who she's with what shes doing and where's she's sleeping. It just seems to me that 1 if you are serious about a relationship you don't go sleeping over another guys house all the time and 2 if you do, you fill in the rest of the story. but 3 I really feel like I'm being played here what do you think?
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Old 01-18-2010, 08:47 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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I'm a firm believer that men and women can maintain platonic friendships. But there has to be boundaries and in my opinion, frequently sleeping over a friend of the opposite gender's house is crossing a boundary. Have you spoken to her about how this makes you feel? What does she say? If she has no intention of changing her behavior and you're not comfortable with her behavior, the only option left is to end it and move on, find someone who shares the your views on this matter.
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Old 01-18-2010, 08:49 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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I'd move on because it DOES sound mighty fishy to me too.
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Old 01-18-2010, 08:51 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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Nothing wrong or unusual in a girl having male friends and your story's a little too sketchy to determine whether or not you're being "played" but it does sound a little odd that your girlfriend is "sleeping over another guys house all the time" and that in itself is a red flag. If I were you I'd not accept the "light version" of her stories but come right out and bluntly ask her exactly what's going on. No point continuing on with a relationship that you don't trust. Good luck!
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Old 01-18-2010, 08:58 AM
 
Location: Kuwait City, Kuwait.
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Mate, she's cheating on you. She's obviously shagging one of her friends. Try and tell her that you'll sleep over at one of your female friends house and see how she throws her toys out of the pram like a 5 year old child.
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Old 01-18-2010, 09:23 AM
 
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Mate, she's cheating on you. She's obviously shagging one of her friends. Try and tell her that you'll sleep over at one of your female friends house and see how she throws her toys out of the pram like a 5 year old child.
Agreed.
Since you just started dating I suggest keeping the relationship casual, in other words keep your options open also and then see if see "throws her toys out of the pram like a 5 yr old child."
Whatever a "pram" might be.
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Old 01-18-2010, 09:26 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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A pram is their stroller, I think.
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Old 01-18-2010, 09:26 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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Agreed.
Since you just started dating I suggest keeping the relationship casual, in other words keep your options open also and then see if see "throws her toys out of the pram like a 5 yr old child."
Whatever a "pram" might be.
It's a stroller.
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Old 01-18-2010, 10:43 AM
 
Location: Incognito
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You are being played like a record my friend.
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Old 01-18-2010, 10:51 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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I'm a firm believer that men and women can maintain platonic friendships. But there has to be boundaries and in my opinion, frequently sleeping over a friend of the opposite gender's house is crossing a boundary. Have you spoken to her about how this makes you feel? What does she say? If she has no intention of changing her behavior and you're not comfortable with her behavior, the only option left is to end it and move on, find someone who shares the your views on this matter.
I agree.
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