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Ok, I NEVER ask for any advice so maybe that is clue enough how much I am struggling with this.
I have a good lifelong friend whom I'm still pretty close with and hang out a few times a week or so. He has just started a family with a wife, kid, and bought a new home. To this point, everything has been great for them. Financially and they were a happy family.
Just a short while ago his wife lost her job and the family's benefits. So my buddy, we'll just call him Timmy the Tooth for the sake of anonymity, has been very depressed and lost. He wants to provide for his family and be the man of the house, but he job has it's definite limitations and the hours are demanding thus ruling out another part time job.
Recently he came to me and told me what had happened and I knew right away he was hoping I would help. He wasn't asking for money or anything like that. He was hoping I had a job I could offer him.
So, here is the other problem. I do have a job I can offer him, but he is not at all qualified. We can train him, but there are others who have seniority and have been waiting for that position as it were.
This economy blows a big fat whale penis and I know there is zero chance of him finding any other employment to subsidize the loss of his wife’s job.
So, should I just say screw everyone else who had been working there asses off for me who deserve it more and give him the job? Should my moral conscious be ignored this time because of the economy and his responsibility toward his family?
nah give it to one of your employees that is better suited and has been busting their ass for you. you employees morale is gonna sink if they see your friend get the job too.
I completely understand your friends predicament but let me offer this one bit of advice. Never, never mix friends with business. Every story I've ever heard just turns out bad. You don't need to tell him that you have something to offer and yes, you are going to internally struggle with that decision but, you already know the answer to your own question because you already answered it in posting.
Things will work out. Be a friend and be supportive but I'd never get a friend a job or help them with money unless they were realllllly down and out. I have a few friends I'd loan money to because I know they are good for it but if this guy is already financially struggling, he's not going to pay the money back any time soon and you have to be okay with that or not.
If the wife just lost her job - isn't she available for unemployment? That's the first thing she needs to do is to get that process started and in the meantime start looking for another job. Times are tough.
Cant you promote from within for that position and offer him the lower position.
Cant his wife look for another job.
That's the problem, the lower job wouldn't subsidize their lost income sufficiently.
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Originally Posted by Ep-
nah give it to one of your employees that is better suited and has been busting their ass for you. you employees morale is gonna sink if they see your friend get the job too.
How would you feel if you were that employee with the seniority and qualifications for the job yet you were passed over because the boss was "friends" with some guy who wasn't qualified?
Sure this economy blows but why add insult to injury by passing over employees who deserve the position more than Timmy the Tooth.
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