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Old 01-22-2010, 09:20 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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Thanks. I did, I explained. I just feel bad if he feels hurt. The messed up thing is that he told me that his feelings wouldn't be hurt, but then he immediately went online with al that "Where are the real females," talk. I'm like, "What? WTF?"
Just FYI, that particular little game he played, these comments, are part of a trend of men who follow what is called "The Pick Up Artist" 's lessons about how to pick up women and score...these insults are designed in particular to CAUSE you to feel bad...it's despicable, and even if that's not what he's doing....that's what he's doing.
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Old 01-23-2010, 07:10 AM
 
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.........Ask him if he could manage to take a long walk off a short pier.... that you think it might do him a world of good and don't waste your time on this idiot anymore.
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Old 01-23-2010, 07:39 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Sounds like BS to me. Seriously, if I didn't drive--and I don't--someone not in the same city would be too far and out of consideration. It would not be fair to make one person do ALL the driving.

Even if both of you drove...

well, I've addressed this in a thread about how the guy is generally expected to pay for the date. I'm thinking if one person drives over an hour to see a person, then the "host" should pay for the date itself, since they're not paying as much for the gas. Just as something to think about, not that I would really have a problem paying for EVERY date. Plus, the "host" is probably picking the milieu for the date.
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Old 01-23-2010, 03:55 PM
 
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RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG!!!!!
The guy is passive aggressive and you don't need to be driving over to ANY guy's home even if he lives in your town. You want someone so interested in you that he will find a way to come to you...especially in the beginning. Please - it doesn't matter how much you enjoyed talking with this guy...SIGN OFF -- do not continue to engage him. What kind of guy makes a woman feel bad before she's even MET him or had a date with him...can you imagine how much worse you will feel if you were dating him and he did this kind of @#%$ to you every time you did or said anything he didn't like?

Please please please -- there are great guys out there...don't allow this person to make you feel bad and write him OFF...PLEASE!
I agree completely. This guy sounds like he has some issues, and I don't think the OP did anything wrong at all. He definitely doesn't sound like someone you should meet in person.
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Old 06-13-2011, 09:55 PM
 
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The emotional roller coaster that this guy is putting you own is a true indication that you are not ready for a relationship. Emotional you are damaged. Plus you have abandonment issues. As soon as the guy told you to get on, then you found yourself holding on. Not the fact that you want to proove that you was a good girl but that you was good enough for him. This guy plays these games all the time. he knows woman like you. he knows if anybody gives him the time and day that they are fools. he know that. my brother was a pimp and this is how he talk to his hoes, especially the girls who didn't have great fathers in their lives or if they did have great fathers, they were to blind to see it. he is to much for you. being that inwardly you dn't like to feel powerless, abandon or what have, this relationship will not be good for you until you set standard in your life. right now you don't have high ones. when you set your standard of respect higher even this cat can't measure up, nothing he says or do will affect you. he's to powerful right now for you. becuz he know that not caring about you staying or leaving will make you stay... you said he say if you feel i'm not worth it...blah blah blah...and then in the another breath he says, no other woman has...it sound like a contradition. he says one thing but does another. i don't think you should trust yourself to hear what ppl mean by what they say. i think you got to pay more attention to what they do...being that you are emotionally stimulate easily. i say this because you need to be protected from the wolves that are in sheep clothing n this guy is a wolf that is ready to devour you. he can becuz you fell for the oky-doke. stay out of your emotions. yu can trust them until they heal...don't make a decision with your brokeness, heal and then choose a man base on your healing...okay....mymyadvice...peace girl...lol.
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