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Originally Posted by JSizzle225
Cite your sources that women's groups, specifically, lobbied for this. If you do, I'll read them, and if you are right, you win.
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I've tried researching this stuff as well and usually don't come up with anything. Of course, I avoid blogs.
This is always a top divorce hit, but I can't vouch for the source...
Divorce Myth: I am entitled to and will be awarded alimony payments, probably for the rest of my life.
Fact:
Most cases do not award alimony payments to either spouse, especially not on a permanent basis. Some states will award a spouse with temporary alimony payments if the judge determines the necessity to do so.
Divorce Myth: I will be able to win more than 50% of the marital property easily in my divorce.
Fact: Most states divide marital property and assets 50/50 between both spouses, except in rare cases involving abuse (spousal or child), or large disparities in income brought in by each spouse. Proof must be provided and the division of the property is up to the court.
Divorce Myth: I bought property or a car under my name while I was married, so therefore that property belongs solely to me.
Fact: Many states, like Texas, apply "community property" law to divorce. This means that any money earned or any property obtained (and any debt accrued) is the joint property of both spouses, regardless of whose name is on the ownership papers. Check with an attorney to find out about the laws regarding property for your state.
Divorce Myth: If my spouse commits adultery, I will be awarded everything in the divorce settlement.
Fact: It may seem very unfair if you are the victim in an adultery case, but your spouse is still entitled to their share of your marital assets. It is up to the court's discretion or the settlement agreement you, your spouse and your attorneys reach what percentage of assets and property you are actually awarded. Adultery does not guarantee you will receive all or most of your joint property.
Common Divorce Myths
"There are many stereotypes about divorce that receive a lot of attention in the media but can be quite harmful to both women and men. Here are some of them, contrasted with what recent sociological and psychological studies tell us:
Myth 1: Most men cheat on their wives.
Actually, the best designed study to date indicates that nearly 80% of men report that they have never cheated on their wives.
Myth 2: Most divorcing women are jilted by their husbands.
Many studies have corroborated that the great majority of divorces (two thirds to three quarters, depending on the study) are initiated by women. This makes sense because numerous studies indicate that men are generally happier being married than are women, they report less marital frustration and dissatisfaction, and are less likely to consider the option of divorce.
Myth 3: Women bitterly regret divorce.
Most divorced women do not regret divorcing. Moreover, divorced women are generally happier than divorced men. And one large study suggests that many middle-aged women become happier after their divorce. These women showed an increase in positive self-image and self-esteem and were inspired by their divorce to gain more control of their lives. Many enjoyed sex more after their divorce.
Myth 4: Women emerge from divorce more emotionally scarred and psychologically damaged than do men.
This is generally not true. Not only are divorced women happier than divorced men, but they are better off emotionally too. In study after study they consistently outscore divorced men on psychological tests to assess emotional health and well-being.
Myth 5: Ex-spouses are highly antagonistic toward one another, even to the point of acting unethically.
Divorced couples, of course, vary widely in the civility of their interactions. But about half of divorced men and women even describe their relationship with their ex-spouse as friendly or cooperative.
Myth 6: Most divorced men can remarry while most divorced women cannot.
It is true that divorced women are less likely than divorced men to want to remarry (after all, they are happier than the men with being divorced). But both groups do remarry at very high rates--and soon. About 80% of divorced men and 75% of divorced women remarry whether or not they have children, and most do so within three years.
Myth 7: The economic consequences of divorce devastate women more than men.
Women are generally worse off financially in the years immediately following a divorce. This has less to do with divorce than with the fact that women generally make less money than men. But, one important study indicates that, five years later, after most men and women have remarried, women's household incomes increased slightly more above predivorce levels than those of their ex-husbands. Furthermore, one very recent study indicates that women are generally more satisfied with their divorce settlements than men, and that this satisfaction is stable over time
Divorce Source: Seven Myths of Divorce
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