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If a man and woman are getting to know each other or to see if they want to get to know each other, shouldn't the man and woman get separate checks and pay for what they ate and drank? Isn't that only fair?
So if you buy a raffle ticket and lose, do you renounce all gambling ?
I don't have anything against seeking a relationship with a woman. I just said relationships aren't for me, because they're not worth the time and money. If the rest of the male society wants to waste their money on women, then by all means, they can have fun doing it and I wish them the best of luck.
I would rather spend money on things I actually like doing. I don't like spending a $100 a week on women in order to get rejected and laughed at behind my back. However if other men like that kind of punishment, then more power to them.
I don't have anything against seeking a relationship with a woman. I just said relationships aren't for me, because they're not worth the time and money. If the rest of the male society wants to waste their money on women, then by all means, they can have fun doing it and I wish them the best of luck.
I would rather spend money on things I actually like doing. I don't like spending a $100 a week on women in order to get rejected and laughed at behind my back. However if other men like that kind of punishment, then more power to them.
Well, you have such a negative attitude about it, that of course you think it's a waste of money.
Personally, I think if you meet someone that you don't know (like a blind date, or someone you met online), then you should meet at a neutral spot, like a cafe, and just have coffee. I would be more than willing to buy my own coffee. I would be willing to buy his too. However, if he insists on buying mine and his, that's more brownie points for him. If he allows me to buy his coffee, that would be negative points (unless he prefaced that with "I'll get the next one"). This is no $100 date.
If I knew someone, and asked them out, I would pay for the both of us, since I initiated the date. If he asked me out, I would anticipate that he would pay for the both of us. Once we've gone out often enough to feel kind of "comfortable" (like gf/bf), I wouldn't hesitate splitting the bill. Usually tho it seems nicer just to take turns treating.
I certaintly don't expect to be wined and dined, but it is nice to be taken out.
If a man and woman are getting to know each other or to see if they want to get to know each other, shouldn't the man and woman get separate checks and pay for what they ate and drank? Isn't that only fair?
Sometimes. If you are meeting for the first time to share a meal... separate checks. Unfortuately, if the woman drags her feet, or fails to suggest this, you should be prepared to pay. In other words the man should never ask for separate checks, but the woman should insist on it.
If you ask someone out for a meal. You pay.
If she asks you out for a meal. She pays. This probably won't happen, since if you don't ask her out she'll just assume you aren't interested. It's more likely a woman would pay you back by cooking for you.
HOWEVER, if you are too cheap to pick up the check for coffee, or a drink after work, then this makes you look kind of uncouth.
In New Zealand we don't really have a dating scene like here in the US. I have never understood this weird concept of being 'bought' by a man. If I pay my way I can have my say in how things are going. No pressure, no obligations.
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