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No, I'm not professionally trained...I just have read a lot on the topic because I wanted to understand why it was a constant thing...it was pretty much everytime I was away (I worked nights at the time, he worked days) but we had a very healthy sex life.
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if I was your man I would have serious questions about being involved with a woman like yourself who seems to take porn so personally.
Are you sure you had a very healthy sex life? I mean, have you talked about that with your guy and are you sure he agrees that it is "very healthy"? To you having once or twice a week vanilla sex may be "very healthy" whereas to him it may be dulls-ville and not "very healthy."
If your guy is watching porn while you're away it could very well be an indicator that he's horny and needs more sex. That isn't necessarily the case, but it is a possibility. I think a more significant question would be whether his viewing of porn is inhibiting his interest in you. I think it is at that point that porn becomes a real problem.
I still think that sex advice columnist Dan Savage has the been answer to the couples porn issue: "you pretend to not look at porn out of respect for her feelings, and she pretends to believe you out of respect for yours."
We actually have sex 5-6 times a week if anyone is interested lol. This was 4 yrs. ago when we first started dating so we actually had more sex then...it's not a problem now. We are on the same work schedule now as well...I'm just saying I still find porn disgusting.
No, I'm not professionally trained...I just have read a lot on the topic because I wanted to understand why it was a constant thing...it was pretty much every time I was away (I worked nights at the time, he worked days) but we had a very healthy sex life.
That^^^is just rude.
Not rude just realistic. You seem to have a very high insecurity level with this and want to blame it on some perversion or mental instability. I think if you will look back and read some of this thread you would find there are a lot of healthy men and women who enjoy the eroticism of porn.
Many couples watch it together and many women realize their man enjoys it. It can be an aid, an aphrodisiac and a learning tool.
As I said, I understand your insecurities but I'm not sure I'd want a woman that thinks like that.
If you marry your SO and catch him some night with a little porn and taking care of a late night need by himself without you. What would you think ?
I've had previous posts that say I'm not interested in marriage at this time anyway. I would not watch it with him, I'm VERY open in the bedroom (pretty much nothing is off limits) so I don't think it would be much of an "aid" sorry. I've had insecurities since high school, I dated a not so good guy back then (he kind of warped my whole view on men in general) I don't want to hear "I need therapy" or all that b.s. either thanks.
Hey, if its not for you that's fine. Some folks like it, some don't. But just because a guy watches porn -- and let's recognize the obvious here: when a guy looks at porn he's usually masturbating -- does not necessarily constitute an insult to his gal.
We actually have sex 5-6 times a week if anyone is interested lol. This was 4 yrs. ago when we first started dating so we actually had more sex then...it's not a problem now. We are on the same work schedule now as well...I'm just saying I still find porn disgusting.
Hi ashcody,
Its very easy not to do things you find disgusting.
Stop blaming women hating porn on insecurity for goodness sakes. Its about respect and a man who feels the need to look at naked women on the internet is showing absolutley no respect for his wife. He is giving her the message that she is not good enough, sexy, enough, slim enough or young enough for him anymore. Even if he does not think this trust me his wife will be thinking this and it will destory her self-esteem.
I am sick of people justifying this behaviour by saying that all men look at porn. No I don't think that they ALL DO and even if they all did its still not an excuse for this kind of behaviour in a marriage.
Can you tell I feel very strongly about this
Stop blaming women hating porn on insecurity for goodness sakes. Its about respect and a man who feels the need to look at naked women on the internet is showing absolutley no respect for his wife. He is giving her the message that she is not good enough, sexy, enough, slim enough or young enough for him anymore. Even if he does not think this trust me his wife will be thinking this and it will destory her self-esteem.
I am sick of people justifying this behaviour by saying that all men look at porn. No I don't think that they ALL DO and even if they all did its still not an excuse for this kind of behaviour in a marriage.
Can you tell I feel very strongly about this
100% agree with this. It's kind of like telling a cop, when you get pulled over for speeding, "Um, everyone else is doing it." You are still getting a ticket.
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