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OK let me tell you how it works with young women and men.
Ironically since humans have monogamous tendencies, it has bred into us for our men to seek younger women.It results in more potential offspring. Chimpanzees look for older females because they are not monogamous. Heck, they hardly even compete at that level and let the sperm fight it out as in Chimpanzee "sperm wars".
So again, as alarming as men seeking younger women is, it is a legacy of monogamy. When men seek a new women, they seek youth. So why don't men always dump their older wives? Well what happens to the offspring? At some point, I suspect we are bonded to women we have spent our lives with emotionally. Such men were likely to invest in those children. Thus that has been bred into us. So if we did not know you, I suppose we may not look for our current wives necessarily. Yet as our current wives, we are bonded to them. Would I choose a hot 18 year old girl over my father? No. When wives become family, we love them as family. Yet a sexual fantasy will likely be about younger women. With most men, it will be how they manage that drive not whether they have it or not. I suggest don't ask, don't tell, and don't spy, unless there is a problem.
BTW that is why women who decide to look for Mr right at 35 is looking for trouble IMHO.
Do you have a problem with him going to Hooters to have a beer and wings served by a 19 year old with short tight pants and cleevage showing?, because it amounts to the same as watching some chick dance on youtube.
Yankee girl you said you don't need porn you have your mind, most guys have their mind stimulated by visual cues. For instance, if I am looking at pic of a woman nude on the beach and I'm taking care of business not only am I doing all those hot nasty things to her in my mind but I am there on the beach in a scenerio when I put my mind to work. While I have imagination it isn't the same without a visual helper.
Where did I say that married people shouldn`t masturbate?
We are talking about porn, smut sites on the internet.
Her husband got busted, and she don`t like it. I can`t say that I blame her, when she has stated that she is more than willing to participate in taking care of "his needs."
Hi yankeegirl313,
Even many women don't fantasize about their SO when they do. So what do you think men think about when they do? Its not over a mountain sunrise. It could be your best friend he is thinking about while he is in the shower. He must be thinking about women. As far as I am concerned, my wife is welcome to bend so as not to break. I doubt porn is much of a benefit, but it may not even be at the level of a nuisance. At that point, there is little difference between fantasy and a photo.
This just entered my mind, you are upset it seems not only because he looked at chicks dancing on you tube but also because he looked at 18-20 year olds.
What would you feel if he was looking at extremely busty women or MILFS like 45 year old women?
You are letting ego make you feel bad about this, you are twenty something?, that is hardly old.
in china they used to give the husbands opium so they would not cheat or be interested anymore.
guys are so useful they earn money got credit and bank accounts fix things around the house, if only they didnt have the hormones.
how will american women handle this? send em to the vet? no probably more divorce, certainly not sex, no way.
This just entered my mind, you are upset it seems not only because he looked at chicks dancing on you tube but also because he looked at 18-20 year olds.
What would you feel if he was looking at extremely busty women or MILFS like 45 year old women?
You are letting ego make you feel bad about this, you are twenty something?, that is hardly old.
I just KNEW you were going to throw a boob in there.......you crack me up LK!
My fiancee isn't home all the time. There might just be times I want to be "pleasured" right then and there. Is there something wrong with that? It doesn't make me want him any less, in fact, I'd want him more AGAIN later! Just because a mate decides they need to have a 'release' right then and there doesn't make it wrong, or make it evil, or distasteful, or cheating, or anything else. It just means they wanted to get off right then and there!
If there is anything I've learned in my life it's that men are visual creatures and while we may have our 'mind', sometimes men need that actual vision. This doesn't mean anything except they're doing what they're programmed to do.
To Jamesgirl...
I have also learned that the bigger deal you make out of the smaller things in life the farther you will push your mate away from you.
Don't sweat the small stuff. Sometimes just because we THINK at the time something is a huge deal, we usually can look back and realize that it was really nothing to worry about. There are so many bigger things in life to worry about.
Also, running at your man the minute he walks in the door is just going to make him AVOID talking to you. While I'm not June Cleaver in the SLIGHTEST, I do know that my bf needs a few minutes when he gets home, as do I. Nobody wants to be attacked or jumped on with ANYTHING the minute they walk in the door. Just chill....maybe HE will bring it up.
I'm just scratching my head over this....I know you said you try different things to get him to have sex with you, but these things aren't working. I don't know the answer as to why he isn't wanting to have sex with you more often, but you can be happy that he's looking at youtube instead of hanging out downtown with a hooker or at a strip club. He IS there with you....maybe HE has a self esteem problem??
Sorry I'm all over the place...just random thoughts....
Even many women don't fantasize about their SO when they do. So what do you think men think about when they do? Its not over a mountain sunrise. It could be your best friend he is thinking about while he is in the shower. He must be thinking about women. As far as I am concerned, my wife is welcome to bend so as not to break. I doubt porn is much of a benefit, but it may not even be at the level of a nuisance. At that point, there is little difference between fantasy and a photo.
I see what your sayin`. I do, but when you know good and well, how your SO feels about porn, but yet you continue to do it because you feel the need for the "visual effect" then to me, its going to be cause` for a problem, because he is going to sneak around and do it anyway. Same goes for a woman, if the guy didn`t care for porn,(which I doubt there are too many.)
I don`t know. I just don`t see it, when you have a wife by your side willing and wanting to "play" but yet, gets turned down flat.
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