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So, I met this guy at a bar when I was supposed to be meeting someone I met online for the first time (long story). Anywho, he had been watching me the whole time and when he realized the guy wasn't going to show, he struck up a conversation with me, and his female friend who was there as well. He asked lots of questions and was genuinely interested in what I do, where I came from, what I like to do, etc. The convo was great and I was really happy that my bad night turned around. At the end of the night, he even asked if I was still gonna call the guy and give him another chance (my answer was a firm NO). I exchanged info with them both, saying we could hang out again sometime.
I texted him the next day saying I had a nice time and maybe I could hang out and come along if he was going out sometime (I'm new to the area). He said no problem, he enjoyed the convo.
As I decided I was done w/ online dating after that fiasco, I logged in to remove my profile and who do I see... the new guy from the bar! What a coincidence, I know. But this leads me to my confusion... if hes online supposedly looking for dates, and I am clearly available, why didn't he take the opportunity to ask me out, if he was interested?... Well, I guess I will have to wait and see how he responds before I can tell if he was just being friendly or if he's interested.
I've come to the conclusion that not all the people online are really looking for a date/friend/etc. That some people just feel like its like having a facebook page, lol. Men and women alike have said that people sometimes don't respond to winks, or emails. Any thoughts?
I think he set you up... the no show was probably him... its a tactic that he probably used... the guy sounds shady... I don't think its going to end well for you...
I think he set you up... the no show was probably him... its a tactic that he probably used... the guy sounds shady... I don't think its going to end well for you...
I think a lot of guys (and maybe girls too) online intentionally put that they're only looking for friends when in reality deep inside they are searching for something romantically-whether it be a friends with benefits, a relationship, a casual fling, whatever, but if they weren't interested in finding that perfect match, they wouldn't be on a dating website. Who looks for friends online anyway?
And maybe he will ask you out soon, who knows?
Don't think too much about it now. Just see where it goes, what do you have to lose? He probably just has one like a Facebook page. If he gives you any reason to be wary, then be wary. Just follow your heart.
So, I met this guy at a bar when I was supposed to be meeting someone I met online for the first time (long story). Anywho, he had been watching me the whole time and when he realized the guy wasn't going to show, he struck up a conversation with me, and his female friend who was there as well. He asked lots of questions and was genuinely interested in what I do, where I came from, what I like to do, etc. The convo was great and I was really happy that my bad night turned around. At the end of the night, he even asked if I was still gonna call the guy and give him another chance (my answer was a firm NO). I exchanged info with them both, saying we could hang out again sometime.
I texted him the next day saying I had a nice time and maybe I could hang out and come along if he was going out sometime (I'm new to the area). He said no problem, he enjoyed the convo.
As I decided I was done w/ online dating after that fiasco, I logged in to remove my profile and who do I see... the new guy from the bar! What a coincidence, I know. But this leads me to my confusion... if hes online supposedly looking for dates, and I am clearly available, why didn't he take the opportunity to ask me out, if he was interested?... Well, I guess... Men and women alike have said that people sometimes don't respond to winks, or emails. Any thoughts?
Maybe he was still shopping and hadnt gotten around or wanted to cancel his dating profile, in order that he might keep his options open, even if he was already seeing someone he hadnt made his mind up about yet? I dont see anything wrong with making new friends if youre not comitted to anything yet. You never know, as time gooes by, and you go in and out of prospective friend/relationships, who you just might come back around to. And what stories you might share that will make you think, 'gee... I wish we'd gotten friendly earlier...??'
When I was younger I did a whole lot of internet dating. A lot of times I just wanted to meet someone to have fun with....not them making it into a love match just because we ended up going out. Sometimes people are too quick to try to make something serious out of online flirting.
I believe you can certainly meet the right person online, but just like offline, it takes time.
I think he set you up... the no show was probably him... its a tactic that he probably used... the guy sounds shady... I don't think its going to end well for you...
Are you suspicious by nature or do you have to work at it?
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Interested or just being friendly?
