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I've known a guy now now for nearly 2 years who lives out of state. We met at a bar, and since then were friends. I've seen him only about 3 times, and the last time I drove out to his city and stayed over at his place for a week.
Well that was a year ago, and since then I havent seen him since he travels alot and lives out of state, but we still text/call each other every month.
Its not a relationship, and Im not wanting it to be a relationship...but we're just sorta nothing. He likes me, I like him...we've messed around before. But whenever we've tried to meet its either he'd want me to arrange to fly to to him. A couple of times he mentioned paying to fly me out to him and it never happened. Then he'd just call a few weeks later as if we never discussed it
So in a way, its frustrating because its like...ok, you have the means to fly me out to you, why not do it if you want to see me? He knows I dont have the disposable income to just jump up and meet him in places. And the times where I have flown out to his city for other reasons (he lives in my hometown) he's either never there or something with his schedule and he's on the other side of the country.
I'm just thinking about cutting contact with him because its like he wants me to come see him, but wont pay for a flight or wont come to my city to visit me.
If you are not interested in a relationship with him, or looking for anything serious, then I don`t see the big deal. You should explain to him how you feel, and maybe he would be more apt to make changes, instead of losing your friendship all together.
Sounds like it may be keeping you from seeking a fulfilling relationship. Go ahead and look for someone who lives in your area that you could be happy with, and actually spend time with. Good luck!
I understand its not a real relationship...I've never actually said, "I dont want a relationship with you".
But at the same time I'm getting over the fact that he calls all the time saying he's here, he's there...everywhere but expects me to meet him there. Sometimes he'll call me at the last minute to say he's in my hometown and when I plan to come out there again.
He's not taking up all of my energy, but Im just the type of person who wants to see results. I mean, going a whole year of not meeting someone who calls every 2-3 weeks...who wouldn't?
If you are not interested in a relationship with him, or looking for anything serious, then I don`t see the big deal. You should explain to him how you feel, and maybe he would be more apt to make changes, instead of losing your friendship all together.
That was my thought.
Joei if you do want more, perhaps a talk about what you want might be in order. If he is willing to pony up the airfare why not take him up on the offer?
What strikes me as being strange about your question is the fact that you're also telling us that you're not really in a relationship and that you don't want it to become one. I guess you have to decide what exactly it is that you both are looking for with each other or if you even want anything at all. It's a little confusing to me.
I've known a guy now now for nearly 2 years who lives out of state. We met at a bar, and since then were friends. I've seen him only about 3 times, and the last time I drove out to his city and stayed over at his place for a week.
Well that was a year ago, and since then I havent seen him since he travels alot and lives out of state, but we still text/call each other every month.
Its not a relationship, and Im not wanting it to be a relationship...but we're just sorta nothing. He likes me, I like him...we've messed around before. But whenever we've tried to meet its either he'd want me to arrange to fly to to him. A couple of times he mentioned paying to fly me out to him and it never happened. Then he'd just call a few weeks later as if we never discussed it
So in a way, its frustrating because its like...ok, you have the means to fly me out to you, why not do it if you want to see me? He knows I dont have the disposable income to just jump up and meet him in places. And the times where I have flown out to his city for other reasons (he lives in my hometown) he's either never there or something with his schedule and he's on the other side of the country.
I'm just thinking about cutting contact with him because its like he wants me to come see him, but wont pay for a flight or wont come to my city to visit me.
What are you waiting for??? Quit selling yourself so short.
Joei is looking for a sugar daddy. This guy could afford to be, but he's not buying her plane tickets and such which is what she wants. Maybe he's not convinced that her company is worth the price of a plane ticket. And by not visiting her in her area, it's a sign that he's just not into her. She should move on and stop hoping that he'll change.
Joei is looking for a sugar daddy. This guy could afford to be, but he's not buying her plane tickets and such which is what she wants. Maybe he's not convinced that her company is worth the price of a plane ticket. And by not visiting her in her area, it's a sign that he's just not into her. She should move on and stop hoping that he'll change.
Joei needs to wear a shirt that says this, and they're on sale right now... only $6.99 plus S & H. Problem solved.
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Quit selling yourself so short.
