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Old 02-13-2010, 12:48 PM
 
Location: The Mango Tree
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I feel like this is the proverbial foot-in-the-door, but please correct me if I am wrong.

To me, this is what differentiates wanting to be someone's friend or wanting to possibly be something more.

Note: This is in the initial stages. Personality, memories, and variables are not in play.

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Old 02-13-2010, 12:56 PM
 
Location: back in Boston
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No. If I'm dating someone,I'm looking to more than just friends.
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Old 02-13-2010, 01:06 PM
 
Location: North America
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Yes I would! Attraction is something that I find develops very easily with the right person. Also, for me, I look for the same qualities in my girl friends as I do in my girlfriends. So any girl I'm friends with could become more. You never know where love might spring up so I try to stay open-minded.
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Old 02-13-2010, 01:08 PM
 
Location: The Mango Tree
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Yes I would! Attraction is something that I find develops very easily with the right person. Also, for me, I look for the same qualities in my girl friends as I do in my girlfriends. So any girl I'm friends with could become more. You never know where love might spring up so I try to stay open-minded.
So you would date a girl that you really don't even want to kiss?

What happens if she leans in?
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Old 02-13-2010, 01:16 PM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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No, otherwise it's not dating. When dating, at some point there will be intimacy if both parties are mutually attracted to one another, but without the initial attraction, it's not dating, it's just friends. At least to me anyway.
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Old 02-13-2010, 01:17 PM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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I don't think I would because the whole idea behind dating someone seems to be an attempt to find out if you're compatible and if it could lead to romance. I also don't think someone could start appearing to be more attractive as time went on because you can see exactly what they look like the second you meet them.
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Old 02-13-2010, 01:25 PM
 
Location: North America
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What happens if she leans in?
Sorry I have cold sore Seriously if a girl asked me out I would go just to see what happens, unless I was totally grossed out by her or she scared me. A few months ago there was this girl who tried just about everything she could to get my attention...unfortunately for her she had the creepiest stalker-like intensity about her, so I ran in the opposite direction

MontanaGuy, so you are only attracted to physical appearance? Obviously personality doesn't effect appearance, but it does effect attractiveness IMO.
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Old 02-13-2010, 01:29 PM
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no intimacy = friend
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Old 02-13-2010, 07:33 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I feel like this is the proverbial foot-in-the-door, but please correct me if I am wrong.

To me, this is what differentiates wanting to be someone's friend or wanting to possibly be something more.

Note: This is in the initial stages. Personality, memories, and variables are not in play.

For me, sex is incidental. Doesn't matter to me whether it happens or not. I can meet my sexual needs without a partner. If I have a relationship with someone, it's about other things, not sex. Sex certainly may be a part of it, will likely be a part of it, but it's not my driving reason to have said relationship.
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Old 02-13-2010, 08:00 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Would I work at a company with low pay and no benefits?

That is what this question reminds me of-lol
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