What could have saved our marriage. (how to, love, single, husband)
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Not mine, yours. I am doing research for a book on building successful marriages. I have been married to the same angel for 39 years. We know how to make a marriage last. I also realize the number 1 reason for divorce is financial problems. Many times we have little control over things that hurt us financially. What I would like to hear are some people being honest about what they could have done to turn things around. "If I had realized having mom sleep in our room would ruin our sex life things would have been different." Things like that. If you don't want to reveal that kind of personal information on a public forum you can DM me or email me at stacy0920@att.net. All replies will be confidential. Thanks for your help.
I also realize the number 1 reason for divorce is financial problems.
I think it has to do with being selfish. One person wants one thing and the other person wants the other. Lots of people get married for all the wrong reasons like, "it was the right thing to do" or "I wanted to have kids etc" or "I loved him." They don't realize that marriage is more about sacrifices rather than personal gain. One person wants to spend the money this way while the other has their own agenda. The don't compromise and financial problems rip the marriage a part.
There is nothing wrong with being selfish but if you do plan to stay selfish, like myself, then by all means do not get married because when you are single it is all about you all the time.
I always think its funny when people want to find a formula that will work for everyone. Speaking for myself I would say it has more to do with the fact that no one in our family has ever been divorced, my parents, their parents...etc...etc. People that come from broken homes tend to repeat the process.
I always think its funny when people want to find a formula that will work for everyone. Speaking for myself I would say it has more to do with the fact that no one in our family has ever been divorced, my parents, their parents...etc...etc.
Complete honesty and absolute trust. Four years after going our separate ways, he still doesn't know how to be honest with me.
My ex-husband would lie to do what he wanted. He would lie if he thought I would get mad (he did admit 99% I didn't react the way he thought). He would lie if he thought what he was saying would make me happy.
The only time he would honest would be after we had a big fight (usually when I figured out he lied) and we had a "come clean session". You can't live with a person if you never know what to believe.
No but if you grow up seeing your mom and dad enjoy each other with 5 kids in the house and its normal to see them hugging and kissing on each other it helps. In their 70's now and leaving on a 10 month road trip in their motorcoach.
I think you tend to find people with the same core values.
Nothing is a guarantee but in well over 100 years no one in our familys history is divorced.
Nothing is a guarantee but in well over 100 years no one in our familys history is divorced.
Same with mine - before me.
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