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Man, you have it all backwards. If you read a great book, why on earth wouldn't you want to discuss with somebody, particularly your SO? Reading is not a solitary pursuit, but rather a conversation.
Exactly. If you read "Moskva-Petushki" by Erofeev, but then fail to discuss with your friends or at least your SO (over drinks, of course) then what was the point in reading it?!
Although. Getting back to the original question: I would not have rejected outright a gal who was strongly dyslexic, but was otherwise dynamite, just because she couldn't read - with PBS, NPR, etc. we can still have some intellectual things to discuss.
Now on the question of your bro - he's not *unable* to read, he's just ADD or something in that vein, I think - a person like this who just does not have any concentration, or no intellectual curiosity, would be a much harder sell.
So, are you saying you don't have any standards? No criteria? No deal breakers? You can CHOOSE who you will fall in love with. Basically, what you are saying is that you can just fall in love with any old homeless bum who happens to push his/her shopping cart in your direction??? Any pervert who molests kids? Rapists? Wife beaters? Serial killers?
What it sounds like is you have NO will of your own and you just willy nilly fall for the first thing that comes down the pike.
I'm not saying you can't chose who you end up with, who you chose to date. But can you chose who you fall in love with? I think most people THINK they can, but I don't think you can. Not saying you will fall in love with an ax murderer or anything like that, but might you fall in love with a penniless artist living in a studio apartment? Maybe.
the reason i would rather be with someone who can't read, than with someone who is a snob, is that snobbery is a character flaw, defect, deficiency, that reveals a person's lack of integrity and shallow superficial way of doing life and judging others. Whereas not reading is not a character flaw at all.
in dating, in relationship, in life, it is far more important for me to be with someone based on their character and integrity, than their literacy.
I'm always fascinated by your kneejerk reactions. Since when did selectivity become snobbery? And since when does a desire to have a relationship with an intellectual component become a character flaw? Isn't it kind of hypocritical and self-righteous to accuse others of being judgmental when one is far more guilty of it?
Reading is so important in our society I really don't think I could date someone who couldn't. I spend so much of my time doing things that involve reading...not that I'm a book snob, I actually don't read books very often at all, but I do read a lot of things online and write messages to people, etc. I would like to be able to send someone messages and have them be able to read them. Plus, unless the person was very lucky in life, I don't think you can get very far without knowing how to read. It may sound snobbish of me to say that, but I want someone who is more flexible and would have the ability to get a decent job. Not saying a person who can't read can't find that, but it seems very unlikely. Now a person who can read but just doesn't want to is another story. It would indeed annoy me if he refused to read anything, but I don't see it as being as huge of a problem.
Exactly. If you read "Moskva-Petushki" by Erofeev, but then fail to discuss with your friends or at least your SO (over drinks, of course) then what was the point in reading it?!
Although. Getting back to the original question: I would not have rejected outright a gal who was strongly dyslexic, but was otherwise dynamite, just because she couldn't read - with PBS, NPR, etc. we can still have some intellectual things to discuss.
Now on the question of your bro - he's not *unable* to read, he's just ADD or something in that vein, I think - a person like this who just does not have any concentration, or no intellectual curiosity, would be a much harder sell.
The point in reading fiction is to be entertained. The point in reading non-fiction is to be informed.
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LOL Wow, some of these answers gave me a good chuckle. I don't care one way or the other if he can read, learning disabilities can be corrected. I just want a man with a heart of gold and some of the basics, like hygiene and common sense. Snobbery not accepted.
LOL Wow, some of these answers gave me a good chuckle. I don't care one way or the other if he can read, learning disabilities can be corrected. I just want a man with a heart of gold and some of the basics, like hygiene and common sense. Snobbery not accepted.
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