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From personal experience as the one who walked the high road after my husband left me for someone else I can fully understand this guy's motivations. I don't even want to detail the revenge fantasies that went through my mind....everything you can imagine and a few more! In the end, I let him go quietly and in as friendly a manner as possible. Not because I am a wonderful person or anything, but because after the initial high of revenge, I'd have to look myself in the mirror and be the person who did whatever. Definitely not worth it to me.
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Originally Posted by typhoidmary
However this approach has its own drawbacks, such as him wanting to get back together with me and be a part of my life. Sometimes I think it might have been a bit better to add a little botulotoxin to his salad to assist in the clean break
I kid. As hard as it was I'm glad I did it this way. In the end, revenge would have made an ugly situation uglier, and god knows that benefits no one
I couldn't agree more. I feel so much better for taking the high road with my ex-fiance. However, the fantasies of setting his car on fire sure were fun I found out that his marriage (to the woman he left me for) fell apart after a while. I guess it serves him right. I have no idea if he regrets what he did to me or not, but if I'd set his stuff on fire, I'm sure he wouldn't. I like to think that he does regret it a bit, since his life turned out so crappy (he also lost his chance at a promotion right after he left me). Karma's a bi***.
It's women like her that ruin a good man, then every woman afterwards is going to have to pay the price for her behavior. He will be jaded, untrusting and likely turn into a class A d-o-g!
I've never known a good man who would allow himself to become this person.
Great point. "Good people" are unable to be influenced by any sort of hurt or tragedy.
I didn't say that they weren't influenced. My point is that a truly good person would not resort to becoming a total ass, as the previous poster suggested. If one has the proclivity to be nasty, a misogynist, a misanthropist, they weren't all that great to begin with.
I didn't say that they weren't influenced. My point is that a truly good person would not resort to becoming a total ass, as the previous poster suggested. If one has the proclivity to be nasty, a misogynist, a misanthropist, they weren't all that great to begin with.
What if they were a Itrytousetomanybigwords-ist?
For the record, I would have bought a billboard and I would expect the same treatment in return.
It's women like her that ruin a good man, then every woman afterwards is going to have to pay the price for her behavior. He will be jaded, untrusting and likely turn into a class A d-o-g!
It's women like her that ruin a good man, then every woman afterwards is going to have to pay the price for her behavior. He will be jaded, untrusting and likely turn into a class A d-o-g!
I know somebody like this.
A man who is almost 40.
In his very early 20s, this guy had a girl he was crazy about. He loved her. AND?.... she cheated on him. But he wanted to give her a chance, and when she asked for forgiveness, he forgave her... only for her to cheat again and then to dump him.
Afterwards he became a callous man who has used many women for sex. He's bragged about his sexual conquests, about he even seduced former employees in his business, etc.
On the issue of revenge and how you feel after you've had it...
A woman I know once exacted revenge on an ex. She refused to tell me what he had done which had driven her to that extreme, and she wouldn't tell me what the revenge act was.
She did, however, tell me that she was right in front of him when the revenge happened, and she looked at him with a look of "HA!"
But, she said she didn't feel the satisfaction she had hoped for... the moment she saw his facial reaction, when she saw his emotions showing through when he understood that she was getting back at him.
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I guess it serves him right. I have no idea if he regrets what he did to me or not, but if I'd set his stuff on fire, I'm sure he wouldn't. I like to think that he does regret it a bit, since his life turned out so crappy (he also lost his chance at a promotion right after he left me). Karma's a bi***.
