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Old 02-22-2010, 06:13 PM
 
Location: Northside Of Jacksonville
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Will you please share, specifically, how Brenda is guilty in this situation?


I'm sure some have. Maturity isn't dependent on sex. These men were childish. There is no reason to blame the person they were lashing out at regardless of gender.

I'm not saying Ms.Brenda is wrong because she's not. Those guys couldn't handle being rejected by her so they call her out of her name. That's usual man-behavior by some men.
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Old 02-22-2010, 06:19 PM
 
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I'm not saying Ms.Brenda is wrong because she's not. Those guys couldn't handle being rejected by her so they call her out of her name. That's usual man-behavior by some men.
I guess I'm not understanding your previous post, then. Any way, "some" being the operative word. Fortunately, they seem to be in the minority.
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Old 02-22-2010, 09:39 PM
 
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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I've never understood these kinds of men's reactions to rejection, either. Hello, they were approaching a woman who doesn't even know them! What reaction do they really expect? That reminds me of construction workers who hoot and whistle at any hot woman walking by. In what universe has this ever worked? Has any woman ever suddenly gone running over to those guys, panting breathlessly, "Take me now!"??

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Old 02-22-2010, 09:47 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Hurt pride or bruised Ego.
And/or extreme immaturity. Whenever I am turned down, I always respond with something to the effect of, "Your husband/boyfriend is a lucky man..."

So much easier to be nice.

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Old 02-23-2010, 01:59 AM
 
Location: Sydney
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What's the legal driving age in Sydney? I ask because it sounds like a couple of 2nd graders stole their parents' car and went for a joy ride.
16 to get your learners permit, then 17 to get a (restricted) license for about 4 years then you can get your full license. By the way, they looked about 28-32 years old..
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Old 02-23-2010, 02:08 AM
 
Location: Sydney
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Here I thought that this might be a thoughtful post about how many average but decent and hard working guys deal with the predictable rejection they usually receive. It might have given a new perspective to the post where older men no longer approach women.

Instead you discuss a game many juvenile males play when they get their first set of wheels. Get over it ladies. This was all pre planned. They were eagerly looking for your rejection and expected it. They have their response rehearsed. This "game" has been going on for decades.
No, im not going to get over it, actually, its verbal abuse and i didnt say anything bitchy to them for them to react that way.

Great game! But sorry i don't know the rules. Maybe you shouldn't expect me to get over something i don't completely understand?

The only traits these particular men were able to show me in the 1 minute they were in my presence was immaturity, lack of effective communication skills, verbal abuse and patronizing remarks just to name a few. I don't think my actions deserve harsh name calling compared to their actions, And i don't think these everyday actions should be ignored by a "get over it" comment.

If men knew how to communicate with women they would have so much success.
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Old 02-23-2010, 02:12 AM
 
Location: southern california
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this was not about bad attitude. they were up to no good and your instincts were good.
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Old 02-23-2010, 08:21 AM
 
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I was driving yesterday and was sitting at a red light when 2 men pull up on the side of me and tried to get my attention. I pretty much ignored them, because i didnt like their approach. They said "hey there, look, over here, hey, hello". They had no sense of conversation. Since i wasnt in the mood to talk to some random guys and they were being immature in my opinion, i ignored them.

Anyway, so when the light went green, and both of our cars drove along, both the men screamed out f**k you Sl*t and sped up.

Now this isnt the first time i have or other girls i know have been called names from a guy just because you didnt want to talk to them.

I ask, Why can a guys attitude change in a second just cause he didnt get his way? Girls are not obligated to speak to every guy that approaches them, so Why do some men feel that it is OK to call girls names just cause the girls dont want to talk to them?
Sorry to break your ego, but they weren't seriously making an attempt to meet you and get to know you.

They were just trying to flirt or get a rise out of you. It's not like the guy asked you to dinner and when you ignored him he called you a ****. He yelled at you from a CAR ON THE ROAD. That's just childish mischief and them being immature and stupid. I guarantee you they didn't leave sleep over you ignoring them, and I'm sure the next 5 girls they did it to ignored them as well.
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Old 02-23-2010, 08:30 AM
 
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Default Agressive Men

Where do Men get off with pulling a Womans arm when he wants to talk to her (in a club or bar)
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Old 02-23-2010, 08:38 AM
 
Location: My Private Island
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I was driving yesterday and was sitting at a red light when 2 men pull up on the side of me and tried to get my attention. I pretty much ignored them, because i didnt like their approach. They said "hey there, look, over here, hey, hello". They had no sense of conversation. Since i wasnt in the mood to talk to some random guys and they were being immature in my opinion, i ignored them.

Anyway, so when the light went green, and both of our cars drove along, both the men screamed out f**k you Sl*t and sped up.

Now this isnt the first time i have or other girls i know have been called names from a guy just because you didnt want to talk to them.

I ask, Why can a guys attitude change in a second just cause he didnt get his way? Girls are not obligated to speak to every guy that approaches them, so Why do some men feel that it is OK to call girls names just cause the girls dont want to talk to them?

They were stupid BOYS (they don't deserve to be called men) and couldn't handle you ignoring them. So what do they do? Resort to name-calling because it's a defense mechanism for their immature, bruised ego.

Don't worry about it. Everyone encounters an a**hole every now and then...it was just your turn!
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