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Hey everyone, I haven't posted on here in awhile due to things being so crazy @ school but let me just give you a brief summary on what happened recently w/ this guy that I know:
It's kind of a sad story to tell. I'm about to graduate in May & I was recently chatting with a fellow from my university who I shared a class with once. This guy graduated a year ahead of me & our conversations were nice, although I didn't like him & then all of a sudden, they became sexual & we began "sexting" (although there was no photos exchanged). So in the meantime, he mentions multiple times that he will come back to our college town to come see me & I never believe him until several weekends ago when he said he would come on Saturday & needed a place to stay & *actually* showed up.
I should tell you all that I am a virgin & this guy knew that I was one the entire time. He didn't want to go to dinner w/ me at all, he showed up about 4 hrs late & I know what his intentions were. The only thing is I was feeling incredibly awkward & he could sense it immediately. I've never been a promiscuous girl (only 1 boyfriend) & when he spent the night, he tried & tried so hard to "do it" with me but he did not "enter" me. He kept complaining that I was "too tight" & that I was "acting girly, affectionate" & the next day he said that I was "emotionally attached."
Since then, we've been texting each other & he says that he wants to come back & see me. However, I don't know if he's really serious or not...I am really surprised that he is still texting because we did nothing but fool around. My friends are like "Don't do it" because "he is for real about next time". But honestly, it's a bit thrilling going against my values. Can anyone help? Sorry for this being so long-winded.
Hey everyone, I haven't posted on here in awhile due to things being so crazy @ school but let me just give you a brief summary on what happened recently w/ this guy that I know:
It's kind of a sad story to tell. I'm about to graduate in May & I was recently chatting with a fellow from my university who I shared a class with once. This guy graduated a year ahead of me & our conversations were nice, although I didn't like him & then all of a sudden, they became sexual & we began "sexting" (although there was no photos exchanged). So in the meantime, he mentions multiple times that he will come back to our college town to come see me & I never believe him until several weekends ago when he said he would come on Saturday & needed a place to stay & *actually* showed up.
I should tell you all that I am a virgin & this guy knew that I was one the entire time. He didn't want to go to dinner w/ me at all, he showed up about 4 hrs late & I know what his intentions were. The only thing is I was feeling incredibly awkward & he could sense it immediately. I've never been a promiscuous girl (only 1 boyfriend) & when he spent the night, he tried & tried so hard to "do it" with me but he did not "enter" me. He kept complaining that I was "too tight" & that I was "acting girly, affectionate" & the next day he said that I was "emotionally attached."
Since then, we've been texting each other & he says that he wants to come back & see me. However, I don't know if he's really serious or not...I am really surprised that he is still texting because we did nothing but fool around. My friends are like "Don't do it" because "he is for real about next time". But honestly, it's a bit thrilling going against my values. Can anyone help? Sorry for this being so long-winded.
Yeah he's for real. Did he use protection? He only wants one thing. You. However as soon as he gets it, he's out the door, see ya later and not gonna be around if you get pregnant.
You see, this part of your post is very very alarming.
"He kept complaining that I was "too tight" & that I was "acting girly, affectionate" & the next day he said that I was "emotionally attached.""
No guy who cares about you would be complaining. A guy who cares about you would be more interested in NOT hurting you.
I know it feels thirlling but if you want to go against your values, do it with a guy who cares about you and loves you. Otherwise it will be a one night stand with you having some emotional attachment to it and he will not care at all.
The dude is bad news. Run away from him and find yourself a good guy.
He wants to bang you, then he'll blow you off. If that's what you want, go for it. I think you can do a lot better for your first time though - this guy isn't going to do his best to please you.
So...you really want to lose your virginity to this guy? You obviously have gone through great measures to maintain your virgin status throughout your high school and college years. To throw it away on someone so callously makes me wonder "why now?"
Do your standards and values towards being a virgin not matter any more? I am not judging you, it's just that I would think you would want your first time should be with someone that you are in a relationship with....not a "hook-up". I would hope you value yourself more than that.
Weren't you the poster who was thinking about running off with an older Indian man??
From what I can recall from your posts in the past, you really need to sit down and examine exactly what's going on in your head. You make really poor choices and seem to enjoy it. You're going to find yourself in trouble one day.
This guy graduated a year ahead of me & our conversations were nice, although I didn't like him & then all of a sudden, they became sexual & we began "sexting"
Stop lying to yourself and do the guy already. If you didn't want to do it, then you wouldn't have kept in touch with him after all he did is try to get in your pants. If you didn't want to do it; then you wouldn't be thinking about having him over again.
I feel sorry for him though because you sound like the type of girl that teases and teases and then claims date rape because you feel bad about what you did the next day.
Then again, if I tried and tried and you still didn't give it up, you wouldn't have ever heard from me afterwards so this loser will get what he gets.
Your virginity is something you can only give away once. Do you really want to remember your first time as being with someone who complains the whole time? If you no longer want that "special" first time and just want to get it over with go to your local bar or wander around campus find the cutest guy there and tell him "I don't want to be a virgin anymore". And be sure to tell him about your "almost" encounter Make sure you complain about the guy not knowing what he was doing and that you want someone who can "seal the deal". You'll accomplish losing your virginity and the guy will make it good for (as good as a first time can get) because he'll be competeing to make sure you don't tell anyone it wasn't good and he didn't "seal the deal".
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You obviously have gone through great measures to maintain your virgin status throughout your high school and college years. To throw it away on someone so callously makes me wonder "why now?" 
