"Testing" each other in a relationship (married, husband, couples)
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Lately, most couples are testing their partners by intentionally pissing them off to see how they fare under stressful situations. I find this concept ridiculous because if you know something bothers your mate, why would you intentionally try them? To see how they react? You're a fool for that, and not in a good way. Have any of you done/Do any of you do it?
I know I am a recipient of this "test," only my SO would disagree.
From what I observe of his behaviors -- things that he has gotten clobbered for in the past and will continue to attempt to do in more creative ways, less obvious ways, or ways that bend the laws of semantics -- it seems to me to be the thrill of seeing if he can get away with something. More like a thrill junkie than a stress test, but similar trappings IMHO. It's not a measure of how I fare in stressful situations though; I have determined it's like that scene in Jurassic Park where the velociraptors test the fencing around their enclosure for weakness. I think it more leans towards a tolerance test.
Lately, most couples are testing their partners by intentionally pissing them off to see how they fare under stressful situations. I find this concept ridiculous because if you know something bothers your mate, why would you intentionally try them? To see how they react? You're a fool for that, and not in a good way. Have any of you done/Do any of you do it?
Ummmm...not to be picky or anything but how do you know "most couples" are doing this?
I have never had this done to me, which is probably a miracle for many reasons, and I've never done it to anyone else. Did I know which buttons to push if I wanted to? Yup. But I have never been a proponent of looking for trouble, intentionally starting trouble or dealing with the drama such silliness creates. It's immature. It's enough that we sometimes make people mad unintenionally and that is more than enough to deal with.
Lately, most couples are testing their partners by intentionally pissing them off to see how they fare under stressful situations. I find this concept ridiculous because if you know something bothers your mate, why would you intentionally try them? To see how they react? You're a fool for that, and not in a good way. Have any of you done/Do any of you do it?
I certainly do not do things to "test" my husband and intentionally guage his reaction. We have plenty of real life stressful situations that come up that put us both to the test, individually & collectively.
Ummmm...not to be picky or anything but how do you know "most couples" are doing this?
I have never had this done to me, which is probably a miracle for many reasons, and I've never done it to anyone else. Did I know which buttons to push if I wanted to? Yup. But I have never been a proponent of looking for trouble, intentionally starting trouble or dealing with the drama such silliness creates. It's immature. It's enough that we sometimes make people mad unintenionally and that is more than enough to deal with.
I was speaking from a general perspective. Some prospective couples do "test" their partners by pushing their buttons to gauge how they'll react in negative situations. It's straight silly IMO and you're bound to get more than you bargained for.
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Originally Posted by BuenoQueHacemohAhora
"Most couples" ?? Did you take a poll?
This makes no sense to me.
If anybody needs to "test" their partner, I question their sanity and their capability of making sound decisions.
I agree with the last sentence, which inspired this thread. What I mean by "testing" your partner is by intentionally pushing his/her buttons to see how they respond in a stressful situation. Life is going to throw you curve balls and how you respond to situations out of or within control are a testament to your strength.
Being married to me.................that's a test in itself.
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