Relationship trouble trying to fixx

[Thursday007]

I did a project with Children's Services and for 6 months I did nothing but read heartbreaking story after story that started out the exact same way you explain your own. My first suprise is that because the police took him on a domestic violence case they allowed him visitation without supervision. Also, keep in mind YOU risk having your child taken away from the both of you.

If he hits you he will hit and hurt that child and I've seen it time and time again. The absolute worst story I read a file on is the woman went to the store and left the child with his abusive father. The child was maybe 3 years old and the guy went into a rage because the kid was messing with the knobs on the stereo and he ended up beating that poor child to death - literally. When the police came to take him in - the remark in the police report stated, "He seemed more concerned with the condition of his stereo while in the car than with the well being of his son."

Is this something you are willing to risk coming home to?

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by aaliyahsmommy09

me and my boyfriend has known each other for almost 3 years but have been dating for 2.we have a 9 month old little girl together too. we've had a good relationship, but we will have little problems here and there just as a regular couple might . recently we had a situation where i made him mad and i ended up getting a bruise on my cheek. he called my mother to come get me cause he was mad. i was getting some things together and was taking the baby and he called the police they ended up arresting him. and i had to sign a restraining order. we just went to court the other day and i have the baby and he has vistation on the days that he is off. we wanna work things out but we know both of our familys will be against it. we've been talking and trying to figure out what to do. im currently without a job because i just got certified to be an ekg technician and im pretty much just filling any job posting out for the hospitakl just to have a job and get my foot in the door. i am havin such a hard time trying to figure out what to do about getting me and my boyfriend and baby a new place i need something cheap and im young and new to this im 20 and my bf 24. how should i do this.

You and he are very young and still have a lot of growing up to do. But while you are still growing up you have a child counting on you not to do anything stupid. So...stay with your parents, get that job and stabilize yourself. He needs to prove to you that he can be the man you and your baby deserve - make him work for that by staying with your folks.