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[SIZE=2][SIZE=2]I have a great boyfriend, that I have been with for 2 years now.
During the spring time we broke up for 3 months.
He meet a girl from the Caribbean that was here for her modeling career.
They became very close during the 2 months that they became friends.
They went on occasional dates and hooked up once.
Shortly after she left, we became a couple again.
My problem is that he refuses to stop talking to this girl.
He keeps in contact with her via BBM, Facebook, and Email.
There has been a couple of times where he has "liked" her swim suit
photos on FB, which has really upset me.
I have asked him on many occasions to stop talking with this girl, but he doesn't
think that he should have to due to my insecurities. He even lied and said that he had
deleted her from his BBM, he said he told me this lie because he didn't want to hurt my feelings.
There was even a time when I had questioned him about something she wrote on his FB wall and he placed my profile on Limited so I couldn't see what people (her) were writing on his wall........
I really do love this guy, but when it comes to his girl, all we do is argue.
Besides this issue we get along great, and we have even talked about living together
What bothers me the most is how defensive he gets when I mention her name and how he doesn't respect
my feelings when it comes to this issue.
What should I do? I knw this issue is small in comparision to others, but it eats me alive at times
Am I over re-acting even though she lives in another country? Should I get over it and trust my boyfriend fully?
Plus, there is always the passibility of her returning again this summer.....
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Yeah, forget about it or live with the knowledge that he is very into her.
Whatever you do, don't move in with him, you will be going crazy. Trust me, I went!
Big red flags here, my dear. Blocking your view of what she writes on his wall? He does not respect your discomfort with his communication with her? He's defensive because he has reason to be. That's such a common tactic for cheaters (be it physical, emotional or virtual).
You are rationalizing his behavior, which I understand, because you want to believe that this is ok. But it's not. This isn't your imagination. This is his lack of dedication to your relationship. You're not on the same plane. He is emotionally carrying on with her, you can be sure of that. And if she comes back this summer, you will be kicked to the side. And if she doesn't come back, it's going to be someone else. He's not respecting your feelings. You can and should walk away.
You need to drop this guy like a bad habit. I can't understand why you would even have taken him back in the first place. Seriously, based on what you've told us there's no future with this man.
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