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This girl needs to run like the wind. He doesn't care about her, he just uncommited sex. The sooner she stops giving it to him, the happier she'll be. If he wants to enjoy a "dating lifestyle" then he needs to do it. Take all of the pressure of meeting a new person and the rejection that goes with it. It wouldn't surprise me at all if he dumped her right after college when he's "ready" and she's "used goods".
This girl needs to run like the wind. He doesn't care about her, he just uncommited sex. The sooner she stops giving it to him, the happier she'll be. If he wants to enjoy a "dating lifestyle" then he needs to do it. Take all of the pressure of meeting a new person and the rejection that goes with it. It wouldn't surprise me at all if he dumped her right after college when he's "ready" and she's "used goods".
How in the hairy monkey's ass did you get ^^that^^ from this:
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Originally Posted by lcrod1221
me and my gf are 20 yrs old and in college. we've been together for about 4 years now. shes asked me on more than one occasion to move in together, but ive told her that its something i dont think im ready for. she took it in a bad way and made her really sad and has caused problems between us....what can i do for her to understand me?
I'm beginning to think your confusing this OP's situation with one of your previous personal situations.
That's the problem nowadays - too many people "play house" instead of "building a home and a life.”
As much as I'm not particularly keen on the idea of living with somebody at this point, I find this "dating" deal very inconvenient and exhausting, suiting only for folks in their 20s... I need a neighbor!
At my age, dating is the only option I would consider at this point - personal preference.
It's no fun going out on a date Friday night after a long week of work when you live together, because you ALWAYS see that person!
me and my gf are 20 yrs old and in college. we've been together for about 4 years now. shes asked me on more than one occasion to move in together, but ive told her that its something i dont think im ready for. she took it in a bad way and made her really sad and has caused problems between us....what can i do for her to understand me?
Hi lcrod1221,
The more I think about it, the more this is a lousy gray area. If you want to do the high school sweetheart thing, then if you can't decide in 4 years whether you are compatible or not, then it is a problem. All she needs is a couple more relationships like this and she is 30 while you get a 25 year old and start a life with no hitch. That is one reason why I don't like these kinds of relationships because I think same age relationships are artifacts of our educational system. People usually gravitate to a 2-4 year older man range because we men are just too immature IMHO.
If that is not enough, between the ages of 16-20, people should be meeting lots of other people. Then you will know who a quack really is. Yet that has been wasted. At 22 you will have both blown your best chance to meet lots of people in college. She could be, at 22, single and relatively ignorant of how men are. You will be in the same spot, but you have lots more time to recover.
The problem is people want to combine the benefits of monogamy for sexual security both in terms of health and availability, but its worth putting off for at least a little while unless you don't mind the risks or moral apprehensions. In that case, just get a buddy now and then flush that condom down the toilet like a rock star should.
Though it is a man's game and it appears you are winning to some extent. That is except you are not meeting new people either while you are not sure. How are you going to be sure while you continue to date one person? Its messy to me and not inherently understandable.
Some guy is poking her for 4 years and potentially using up her goodies? How many times do we have to see men commit to other women before they see what is going on. A women spends 5 years with a guy, and then he marries another in a year. I know this is his thread, but I know darn well why she wants him to move in.
There is a fixed supply of attractive, commitment oriented men. They will start looking to marry soon.
The rest are cads, neo fops, or those bow tied, stork necked saps wearing ankle riders. Sure, 20 is still considered young, but her best time to bring em in is approaching fast. If I were coaching her, I would tell her to shake the nuts out of the trees too.
Crap, I hope you didn't read my original response. Re-evaluating your post and position, I get what you're saying.
I need some sleep.
Last edited by steelstress; 03-01-2010 at 05:56 PM..
Reason: I misinterpreted the post.
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