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Makes perfect sense to me. When you're single and looking, you're open to the possibilities. But when you set your heart on that special someone you're no longer interested in pursuing 'others', no matter how great they might be.
Exactly.
I have no idea why I've been blessed with the buttons I have but I'm more than grateful for them. I guess the hard part is finding the one person beside yourself that knows how to operate them.
I have no idea why I've been blessed with the buttons I have but I'm more than grateful for them. I guess the hard part is finding the one person beside yourself that knows how to operate them.
Ah well it's amazing what you're prepared to do when you have to Phil.
Oh, TELL me about it.
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I've rationalized it nicely and have no regrets...well other than it excempts me from organ donation AND I can think of folks I'd rather play with..meh, that's life I guess.
Okay, so few days ago, me and couple of friends (girls/boys) were talking and this subject came up.
Someone said to one of the girls what's the worst a girl could tell a guy? The reply: "He's a nice guy". Apparently, most of the people were on board with this except me.
IMO, there's a BIG difference between being a nice guy and not having confidence vs. being a nice guy and HAVING confidence. Also, don't mix up confidence with being shy (that's totally different). My argument is that it's human nature to not be around someone who is not "nice". So, as long as you're nice (not mother Teresa kind) and have confidence than that is a plus and would attract women.
Because, otherwise, if girls don't like "nice guys" than the opposite would be a D-Bag who seems like he has confidence. Which would be pretty stupid, imo.
Bottom line: It's FINE to be labeled as a nice guy as long as you have other things going on in life and have confidence.
Yes, I agree with you. However, the way American couples relate to one another has changed over the last 40 years, in that (say for a man), being honest, polite, and respectable would now be perceived as weak, dorky and old fashioned when compared to the contemporary "bad boy".
True story: About 3 weeks ago I was talking to a woman on the phone and she told me "i like it that you are nice, but so as long as you are not TOO NICE." She also said, she wants a man to "put her in her place when need be."
Yes, I agree with you. However, the way American couples relate to one another has changed over the last 40 years, in that (say for a man), being honest, polite, and respectable would now be perceived as weak, dorky and old fashioned when compared to the contemporary "bad boy".
Not always and not by everyone.
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True story: About 3 weeks ago I was talking to a woman on the phone and she told me "i like it that you are nice, but so as long as you are not TOO NICE." She also said, she wants a man to "put her in her place when need be."
Ok, I kinda understand this. It's possible that she's not hoping to be downtrodden or abdicate her autonomy but perhaps more that's she wanting to make sure that a guy will stand up to her if she's being unreasonable or trying to have too much control? Does that make sense?
Okay, so few days ago, me and couple of friends (girls/boys) were talking and this subject came up.
Someone said to one of the girls what's the worst a girl could tell a guy? The reply: "He's a nice guy". Apparently, most of the people were on board with this except me.
IMO, there's a BIG difference between being a nice guy and not having confidence vs. being a nice guy and HAVING confidence. Also, don't mix up confidence with being shy (that's totally different). My argument is that it's human nature to not be around someone who is not "nice". So, as long as you're nice (not mother Teresa kind) and have confidence than that is a plus and would attract women.
Because, otherwise, if girls don't like "nice guys" than the opposite would be a D-Bag who seems like he has confidence. Which would be pretty stupid, imo.
Bottom line: It's FINE to be labeled as a nice guy as long as you have other things going on in life and have confidence.
Agreed. I think nice is good, but nice with a backbone, as in someone who stands his ground for something he believes in. I suppose that could be an aspect of confidence I'd certainly never be interested in someone who was not nice if the flip side is cruel, inconsiderate, a**holish (is that a word?), etc..
It's interesting that the thread has 5 pages. And 95% of the replies have nothing to do with the original topic...
Be nice now.
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Grown ups are no fun! 
I'd certainly never be interested in someone who was not nice if the flip side is cruel, inconsiderate, a**holish (is that a word?), etc..
