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To make a potentially long story short... my partner of 3 years told me the other day that he wants to have a threesome once in awhile. I'm a pretty conservative person and the thought of this kind of freaks me out because 1. the risk of infection 2. the emotional damage... such as what if he gets more attached to the third person, what if they see each other while I'm not there ect.
He says I'm insecure which is why I don't want to do this with him. I don't really know what to think. I love him but do I need to end this relationship?
You are not insecure, that is A LOT to ask of a person. There are people who are fine with it and if it works for them, great, but it is not for everyone. I'd say you need to keep your eyes open at this point. If he starts pushing too hard, he may eventually do it without you.
If you're not comfortable with the idea, don't do it. I agree with you, I wouldn't be comfortable with it either, for the reasons you stated and more.
You can find other posts here about people that have done that, to please their SO, and how things quickly went south afterwards. I don't think a lot of people are really able to separate their emotions from the physical game, and that can get ugly quickly.
To make a potentially long story short... my partner of 3 years told me the other day that he wants to have a threesome once in awhile. I'm a pretty conservative person and the thought of this kind of freaks me out because 1. the risk of infection 2. the emotional damage... such as what if he gets more attached to the third person, what if they see each other while I'm not there ect.
He says I'm insecure which is why I don't want to do this with him. I don't really know what to think. I love him but do I need to end this relationship?
How can we answer that for you? I can only answer for myself. I have no interest in sharing my guy with anyone.
He says I'm insecure which is why I don't want to do this with him. I don't really know what to think. I love him but do I need to end this relationship?
Don't let him bully you into doing something you don't want.
I don't think you need to leave him just because he wants a threesome. That seems a bit radical considering you have been together for 3 years.
It's something you should discuss with him and if he doesn't respect your views, then it becomes a dealbreaker.
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