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Old 03-04-2010, 02:33 PM
 
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Rugged's thread got me thinking about this.

How much communication do you want with your partner? As for me it's at least daily. If they are grouchy or busy that's fine...just shoot me quick info letting me know that. I don't do well with the silent treatment. (makes me feel rejected)
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Old 03-04-2010, 02:45 PM
 
Location: Tempe, AZ
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Um, I am an odd ball. If it isn't to schedule a time for us to meet do not call me unless we are long distance for a time. An e-mail of random ramblings or cool things you want to share is ok as many times as you like. SMS is fine if it is "I will be late see you at ____ time". I hate talking on the phone if we live in the same area
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Old 03-04-2010, 02:50 PM
 
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Um, I am an odd ball. If it isn't to schedule a time for us to meet do not call me unless we are long distance for a time. An e-mail of random ramblings or cool things you want to share is ok as many times as you like. SMS is fine if it is "I will be late see you at ____ time". I hate talking on the phone if we live in the same area
Im the same. Thats one thing that about my bf that drives me crazy. If he isnt working he will call 14 times a day (while Im at work) "I just ate breakfast and am going to pay such and such bill" or I at so and so's house or the latest gossip. When he is working its about 3 times a day. Once a day is enough.
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Old 03-04-2010, 02:53 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Once, maybe twice a day is enough. I figure if you shoot your conversational wad on too many meaningless calls, texts, and emails, you've got nothing to talk about when you're actually together.
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Old 03-04-2010, 02:56 PM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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Rugged's thread got me thinking about this.

How much communication do you want with your partner? As for me it's at least daily. If they are grouchy or busy that's fine...just shoot me quick info letting me know that. I don't do well with the silent treatment. (makes me feel rejected)
Good question. I've actually been wondering the same thing, in light of Rugged's conundrum.

With my current BF, I totally appreciate even a quick e-msg once a day, just so I know he's thinking of me. I'll "show" my appreciation at a later time! I write him every day - sometimes a few paragraphs, sometimes a lengthy msg, sometimes only a few words that I know will get a "rise" out of him. Fun!

I think it just depends on how far along the relationship is in each case, and whether the partners feel the same way about each other. Too much communication too early in the relationship can definitely be smothering - that is, if it is unwanted. But if you're smitten with someone, why would you NOT appreciate at least a little reminder each day that he/she cares for you?

PS - We are both extremely busy with work and other commitments, so we don't talk on the phone daily. Couple times a week. Makes us treasure even more the time we do have together.

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Old 03-04-2010, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Tempe, AZ
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Im the same. Thats one thing that about my bf that drives me crazy. If he isnt working he will call 14 times a day (while Im at work) "I just ate breakfast and am going to pay such and such bill" or I at so and so's house or the latest gossip. When he is working its about 3 times a day. Once a day is enough.
I used to get the 1/2 hr messages on my phone from my ex about what he heard on NPR and his thoughts about it. Plus side is he did not call me at work. Downside, I had to listen and pay attention because there would be Q & A later. Boy was lucky we had the same interests or that would have been more annoying!!!
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Old 03-04-2010, 03:03 PM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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Im the same. Thats one thing that about my bf that drives me crazy. If he isnt working he will call 14 times a day (while Im at work) "I just ate breakfast and am going to pay such and such bill" or I at so and so's house or the latest gossip. When he is working its about 3 times a day. Once a day is enough.
Yeah, that is waaaaaay too much. That would turn me off.
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Old 03-04-2010, 03:10 PM
 
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Yeah, that is waaaaaay too much. That would turn me off.

And he wonders why I dont always answer my phone.
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Old 03-04-2010, 03:26 PM
 
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I wouldn't mind an email once a day or a cellphone text or a call once in awhile. My boyfriend sends me emails here and there when he can, but usually he's busy at work.

But I've know women who call their boyfriends or husbands or mothers (!) constantly throughout the day. I can't imagine doing that. Unless there was some kind of natural disaster or someone was in the hospital. Or if I was stranded in the middle of nowhere.

There's nothing much for me to say to my boyfriend or my parents or a good friend if the day is going along as usual. Just get through it.
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Old 03-04-2010, 03:29 PM
 
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Once every 24 hours is good enough. I don't like to talk at work so I don't want to be bothered unless it is an emergency?
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