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So I am reading this book. It talks about how men like to be respected by their wife/significant other and in turn he is able to love his wife. That women are naturally wired to love unconditionally and men are naturally wired to respect unconditionally. How women have to learn to respect unconditionally and men have to learn to love unconditionally.
My question for the guys is how does the woman (or SO) in your life show you that they respect you? Ladies- How does the man (or SO) in your life show you that they love you? Do you think the two go hand in hand?
The single greatest sign of respect that a woman can give her man is to give her total support to a decision he makes that she does not agree with. And if it doesn't work out, to resist the urge to say: "I told you so."
Why is that so important?
Because it's easy to support something you agree with, that doesn't require any effort at all. But if you can support something that you don't agree with because you believe he has your best interests in mind and trust him. That's the ultimate in respect.
So I am reading this book. It talks about how men like to be respected by their wife/significant other and in turn he is able to love his wife. That women are naturally wired to love unconditionally and men are naturally wired to respect unconditionally. How women have to learn to respect unconditionally and men have to learn to love unconditionally.
My question for the guys is how does the woman (or SO) in your life show you that they respect you? Ladies- How does the man (or SO) in your life show you that they love you? Do you think the two go hand in hand?
I find that expectation to be pretty unreasonable. Love may be unconditional, but respect and relationships are not.
My guy shows me all the time, though we are not on the level that some others may be here. I think the two do go hand in hand as far as being IN love. I don't think you can stay that way with someone you don't respect.
I am reading the same book. It also talks about how men and women communicate, and how to understand each other. It talks about the principal being ignored and the nasty cycle of round and round we go until things get so bad that it ruins a relationship.
It has revealed a lot about how I ended up where I am. It is an excellent book IMO.
The single greatest sign of respect that a woman can give her man is to give her total support to a decision he makes that she does not agree with. And if it doesn't work out, to resist the urge to say: "I told you so."
Why is that so important?
Because it's easy to support something you agree with, that doesn't require any effort at all. But if you can support something that you don't agree with because you believe he has your best interests in mind and trust him. That's the ultimate in respect.
Thats something I learned about 6 years ago when my husband joined the military. I hated the thought of being a military wife, the lifestyle you name it. Now its a completely different story. I support him 100% because if he is not happy, aint no one happy in this house. lol!
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Originally Posted by SD4020
I am reading the same book. It also talks about how men and women communicate, and how to understand each other. It talks about the principal being ignored and the nasty cycle of round and round we go until things get so bad that it ruins a relationship.
It has revealed a lot about how I ended up where I am. It is an excellent book IMO.
Its been reavealing alot to me about how I do talk to him and how I do disrespect him in the smallest ways. I would have never thought something so small means so much to him.
Ha, my father has mentioned this love-and-respect cycle to me before.
I agree that women need love and men need respect. However, I am against giving unconditional respect to all people, especially as some of them deserve as much respect as a potato does. I can't sit back and let a guy - especially one I'm dating - make a ridiculous decision, watch it backfire on him, and not say a single thing about it. Sometimes you have to point out the giant red flags waving around. I do this because I care about him and don't want him to end up in a puddle of despair.
It was something she told me several times. Its the little things. They do add up. If anything learn from my mistakes. Learn to communicate. Learn to treat each other with both love and respect. Yes men like respect.
Well meaning men try to say something and she takes it as something unloving. So she says something to disrespect him.
The single greatest sign of respect that a woman can give her man is to give her total support to a decision he makes that she does not agree with. And if it doesn't work out, to resist the urge to say: "I told you so."
Why is that so important?
Because it's easy to support something you agree with, that doesn't require any effort at all. But if you can support something that you don't agree with because you believe he has your best interests in mind and trust him. That's the ultimate in respect.
This man is on point.
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Originally Posted by mango tango
Ha, my father has mentioned this love-and-respect cycle to me before.
I agree that women need love and men need respect. However, I am against giving unconditional respect to all people, especially as some of them deserve as much respect as a potato does. I can't sit back and let a guy - especially one I'm dating - make a ridiculous decision, watch it backfire on him, and not say a single thing about it. Sometimes you have to point out the giant red flags waving around. I do this because I care about him and don't want him to end up in a puddle of despair.
It may not be clear at first to you but as time goes on and you see the benefits, you'll be singing a different tune.
Love and respect go hand in hand. You can't love someone you don't respect and vice versa.
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This man is on point.
