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raymusic · 03-05-2010, 06:30 PM

Hi!

I'm 26 years old. I'm form Canary Islands, Spain. I have a problem with my girlfriend: Last summer I went to Cuenca for to do a one-week-summer-course, and I met a girl. I felt attracted to her. When I arrived, my girlfriend was jealously because she saws some facebook messages. I never were unfaithful to my girlfriend, but she doubts me.

Now, I want to go to an island one week for a job, but she don't like that I do this, because she is affraid that I were unfaithful to her.

I don't know what to do.

Thanks

AllAboutEve · 03-05-2010, 06:57 PM

If you're not unfaithful and you have no intention of being unfaithful, I don't see the harm in going. That being said, you should not tempt yourself.

TheStupid · 03-05-2010, 06:58 PM

Tell her that you will put a spy camera on you so that she can watch you 24x7.

Just do what you need to do and tell her to get over with it.

the minx · 03-05-2010, 07:00 PM

You can't control her, only yourself.

Do what you need to do to be happy with yourself and let her do what will make her happy.

virgode · 03-06-2010, 05:52 AM

Depends on the facebook messages...she may have good reason to be distrustful.

You admit to being attracted to her, was it mutual?

Women have a keen intuition when it comes to matters like this.

Quote:

Originally Posted by raymusic

Hi!

I'm 26 years old. I'm form Canary Islands, Spain. I have a problem with my girlfriend: Last summer I went to Cuenca for to do a one-week-summer-course, and I met a girl. I felt attracted to her. When I arrived, my girlfriend was jealously because she saws some facebook messages. I never were unfaithful to my girlfriend, but she doubts me.

Now, I want to go to an island one week for a job, but she don't like that I do this, because she is affraid that I were unfaithful to her.

I don't know what to do.

Thanks

raymusic · 03-06-2010, 08:53 AM

The facebook messages include only "kisses", she asks me for my exams, emoticons like ;-) ... Probably the other girl was attracted to me, but I don't know if only she wants a friendship.

Thanks

samston · 03-06-2010, 10:44 AM

To be honest I can see where she is coming from.

But if the conversations between you and her are innocent, then i don't think she has much right to worry.

funymann · 03-06-2010, 11:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spinx

You can't control her, only yourself.

Do what you need to do to be happy with yourself and let her do what will make her happy.

...and she can't control you..

It's her problem.

When people act like that they don't have enough confidence in themselves so they have to control EVERYTHING around them....including you.

Tell her to take a hike.

raymusic · 03-08-2010, 09:15 AM

Thank you very much for the advices.

I don't know what to do. She has a problem with her parents, because they are ill, and she said to me that she can need me here, and that I should think about her. She also said to me that she would not trust in me.

Coolhand68 · 03-08-2010, 09:24 AM

Facebook has become the topic of so many threads in this forum, and it's usually not a result of something good that came out of it. Don't post anything on it you wouldn't want your S.O., boss, children, or mother to see...that rule of thumb should spare you plenty of drama in your life. Also, if you have something you feel compelling or remotely important to say to someone, do it face to face, don't rely on Facebook to get your message across. Just my .02 cents.