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03-22-2010, 03:09 PM
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At this age you should be worried about your studies, not about dating. You'll have plenty of time to regret even having thought about that.
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03-22-2010, 03:15 PM
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Originally Posted by JayAppleBee
Do you think this is strange? WIll I change as I get older? Thank you so much for your advice and opinions!
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Nope, not at all. It sure beats those who always have to be in a relationship. At least you are giving yourself a chance to make your own life while you are young and do the things YOU want to do.  |
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03-22-2010, 03:38 PM
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Originally Posted by JayAppleBee
Here's my situation: I am 20 years old and in my third year of college. I've only been in a relationship (if you'd even call it that) for about a month in 2008. I have very few guy friends, but they're only friends.
See, I'm not interested in dating at all right now. Not at all. I feel that most guys (not all guys!) my age are still very immature and impulsive. It seems like they're mostly after sex. Don't get me wrong, I am attracted to guys... It's just that dating does not appeal to me at all right now. I haven't met a guy where I thought "Wow, I could totally see myself with this guy!" I'm also shy, but I do know what I want (I think) in the person I would date.
I am a very independent person and I would love to do lots of traveling (get into travel nursing) before I settle down in my life. I guess it's sort of beneficial that I'm not interested in dating in this respect, right? haha
Do you think this is strange? WIll I change as I get older? Thank you so much for your advice and opinions!
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Hi JayAppleBee,
If you do like men, then try slightly older like 2-6 years. I was 22-24 my last years at college; and I remember 2 things, bloody snot on the wall of a freshman dorm, and that I would invite women to my place for dinner and conversation. An idiot is an idiot, but it might help.
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01-21-2015, 05:00 PM
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I'm in the same boat! I'm 20 years old, I dated one guy (for a month and a half) and went on a date with another guy, who really only wanted to get me in his bed. Before that I never really had any major crushes and now I'm completely turned off dating. I am really happy to be single but no one else seems to understand that you can be happy without a significant other. I'd eventually like to settle down, but I'm much too focused on other things right now like school and travelling etc. I've got quite a few guy friends and I'm always worried that we won't be able to stay just friends for long. I must say that I've become a master at "friendzoning", which is not something to brag about. I'm interested to know if you met someone who changed your feelings?
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01-21-2015, 05:02 PM
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Location: State of Transition
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Originally Posted by JayAppleBee
Here's my situation: I am 20 years old and in my third year of college. I've only been in a relationship (if you'd even call it that) for about a month in 2008. I have very few guy friends, but they're only friends.
See, I'm not interested in dating at all right now. Not at all. I feel that most guys (not all guys!) my age are still very immature and impulsive. It seems like they're mostly after sex. Don't get me wrong, I am attracted to guys... It's just that dating does not appeal to me at all right now. I haven't met a guy where I thought "Wow, I could totally see myself with this guy!" I'm also shy, but I do know what I want (I think) in the person I would date.
I am a very independent person and I would love to do lots of traveling (get into travel nursing) before I settle down in my life. I guess it's sort of beneficial that I'm not interested in dating in this respect, right? haha
Do you think this is strange? WIll I change as I get older? Thank you so much for your advice and opinions!
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No, not strange. Very sensible. However, don't overlook the shy guys. Some of them can be not-impulsive, and interested in a solid relationship with a sensible, together woman. 
edit: oops. Old thread. Oh well.
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01-21-2015, 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by JayAppleBee
Here's my situation: I am 20 years old and in my third year of college. I've only been in a relationship (if you'd even call it that) for about a month in 2008. I have very few guy friends, but they're only friends.
See, I'm not interested in dating at all right now. Not at all. I feel that most guys (not all guys!) my age are still very immature and impulsive. It seems like they're mostly after sex. Don't get me wrong, I am attracted to guys... It's just that dating does not appeal to me at all right now. I haven't met a guy where I thought "Wow, I could totally see myself with this guy!" I'm also shy, but I do know what I want (I think) in the person I would date.
I am a very independent person and I would love to do lots of traveling (get into travel nursing) before I settle down in my life. I guess it's sort of beneficial that I'm not interested in dating in this respect, right? haha
Do you think this is strange? WIll I change as I get older? Thank you so much for your advice and opinions!
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I was exactly the same way when I was 20 Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders - move at your own pace, certainly nothing wrong with that.
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01-21-2015, 05:46 PM
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Location: Imperial Beach
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Originally Posted by Lanana22
I'm in the same boat! I'm 20 years old, I dated one guy (for a month and a half) and went on a date with another guy, who really only wanted to get me in his bed. Before that I never really had any major crushes and now I'm completely turned off dating. I am really happy to be single but no one else seems to understand that you can be happy without a significant other. I'd eventually like to settle down, but I'm much too focused on other things right now like school and travelling etc. I've got quite a few guy friends and I'm always worried that we won't be able to stay just friends for long. I must say that I've become a master at "friendzoning", which is not something to brag about. I'm interested to know if you met someone who changed your feelings?
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Yes focus on school and have fun travel etc etc |
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