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Single Moms need love too and don't expect for you to pay our way, we're strong and independent because we have to be. I just don't understand why some or most men hate dating a single mom especially if she is attractive. I don't get it.
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Single Moms need love too and don't expect for you to pay our way, we're strong and independent because we have to be. I just don't understand why some or most men hate dating a single mom especially if she is attractive. I don't get it.
It's not the mom I have a problem with at all. It's the presence of the kid that is a dealbreaker for me personally speaking. Mind you, I was raised in a single mother home and know firsthand they have the hardest jobs in the world.
For me the only reasons are just that I didn't want kids myself and I hated the lack of spontaneity....... I never really had an issue with the kids themselves or even had any issues with the dads either.
My mom was a single mother as my parents divorced when I was 1 or so and my dad wasn't around all that much as I was growing up.
I get the struggle single mothers go thru.
I also see both sides of the picture, being the kid and seeing men come around my mom and also being an adult man dating single mothers.....
It's not the mom I have a problem with at all. It's the presence of the kid that is a dealbreaker for me personally speaking. Mind you, I was raised in a single mother home and know firsthand they have the hardest jobs in the world.
Ok,, so why does a presence of a kid puts you off?
Kids make it difficult even before you meet them. Instead of trying to match schedules with one person, now it's with multiple people.
Probably no matter HOW great your kids are, going out to ChuckECheese is not going to be on most people's To Do List. Not nearly as romantic having to keep your sex life on quiet mode or waking up for a post coital breakfast with kids watching cartoons.
It's hardly an ideal situation for most.
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Kids make it difficult even before you meet them. Instead of trying to match schedules with one person, now it's with multiple people.
Probably no matter HOW great your kids are, going out to ChuckECheese is not going to be on most people's To Do List. Not nearly as romantic having to keep your sex life on quiet mode or waking up for a post coital breakfast with kids watching cartoons.
The whole social/economic thing is the real kicker. I always see personal ads with women saying I’m not looking for a father. The kicker is should the relationship become long-term you’re going to be a father by proxy. I’m not a spring chicken anymore and have no desire to raise someone else’s kids.
I am dating a single mom and we make it work but her kid is almost a teenager so he can be left alone while she comes to my place for a few hours. The kid also visits the extended family a lot. If it were not for all those circumstances the relationship would probably not work.
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