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03-21-2010, 07:32 PM
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Location: Western Michigan
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Here's my situation: I am 20 years old and in my third year of college. I've only been in a relationship (if you'd even call it that) for about a month in 2008. I have very few guy friends, but they're only friends.
See, I'm not interested in dating at all right now. Not at all. I feel that most guys (not all guys!) my age are still very immature and impulsive. It seems like they're mostly after sex. Don't get me wrong, I am attracted to guys... It's just that dating does not appeal to me at all right now. I haven't met a guy where I thought "Wow, I could totally see myself with this guy!" I'm also shy, but I do know what I want (I think) in the person I would date.
I am a very independent person and I would love to do lots of traveling (get into travel nursing) before I settle down in my life. I guess it's sort of beneficial that I'm not interested in dating in this respect, right? haha
Do you think this is strange? WIll I change as I get older? Thank you so much for your advice and opinions!
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03-21-2010, 07:40 PM
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Location: Tennessee
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It sounds like you are alot more mature than most of the guys that you have come across. You will find the right one some day, only when you are ready! No hurry!  |
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03-21-2010, 07:42 PM
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You sound exactly like me when I was 20. It's unusual but, just fine. Focus on your education first.
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03-21-2010, 08:02 PM
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It's not unusual! You know what you want and have dreams! Go for them! There will be plenty of time for dating later...but it would be hard to be a traveling nurse after you settle down and have a family to worry about!
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03-21-2010, 08:12 PM
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Location: Northside Of Jacksonville
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Quote:
Originally Posted by JayAppleBee
Here's my situation: I am 20 years old and in my third year of college. I've only been in a relationship (if you'd even call it that) for about a month in 2008. I have very few guy friends, but they're only friends.
See, I'm not interested in dating at all right now. Not at all. I feel that most guys (not all guys!) my age are still very immature and impulsive. It seems like they're mostly after sex. Don't get me wrong, I am attracted to guys... It's just that dating does not appeal to me at all right now. I haven't met a guy where I thought "Wow, I could totally see myself with this guy!" I'm also shy, but I do know what I want (I think) in the person I would date.
I am a very independent person and I would love to do lots of traveling (get into travel nursing) before I settle down in my life. I guess it's sort of beneficial that I'm not interested in dating in this respect, right? haha
Do you think this is strange? WIll I change as I get older? Thank you so much for your advice and opinions!
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Not at all strange. In fact it's commendable that you have such a good head on your shoulders. You know your priorities and are focused more on those than dating. |
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03-21-2010, 08:17 PM
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Honestly? Not strange at all. Work hard at your studies. Follow your dreams.  |
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03-21-2010, 08:18 PM
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Do what you want to do. If you don’t feel like dating then don’t get pressured into doing it. Your travel plan sounds a lot more exciting then settling down and getting married. Follow your heart!
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03-21-2010, 08:41 PM
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Location: Columbus, Indiana
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I second everyone else's opinion. I think you are smart. You've got plenty of time to get involved with a man. Education first!
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03-21-2010, 10:28 PM
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Location: Alexandria, VA
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There's nothing wrong with that. I was too busy chasing tail in college that I was unable to focus on the important things. As someone who's older and wiser, I can tell you that love is a strange thing; you always meet that perfect person when you least expect it, so not wanting to date is not a bad thing.
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03-22-2010, 10:46 AM
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Location: New York, NY
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My brother is 23 and other than prom, hasn't ever really been on a date. He's pretty shy and right now is just interested in his career. He's a nice guy and has female friends, but he just hasn't found one that he wants to date (I predict he will marry the first woman he dates, so I guess he just wants to choose wisely).
When he's ready, he'll find someone and settle down. There's nothing wrong with that attitude. I enjoyed dating around when I was younger, but other people don't. There's nothing wrong with it as long as you're happy with your situation. Dating because you feel you should, not because you want to, will lead to bad situations.
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