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There are bipolar people in my family and I'm convinced that my mother was. It is very scary, even when they're on their routine (meds). And when you're faced with someone who refuses to take responsibility by taking their meds faithfully, they not only endanger themselves but they zap the energy right out of their loved ones.
There is something else to consider that wasn't mentioned in here yet: If you married this guy you could count on at least one of your children inheriting this disorder. It's ugly. I know, I have two nephews who are bipolar and they have family support, but it takes a LOT of work.
If his meds make him a zombie he should have them adjusted. It sometimes takes a while to find the right balance but it can be done. I had a client who had bipolar and paranoid schizophrenia and if she didn't tell you, you wouldn't know. If he constantly goes off his meds, that's a major problem. I don't advocate meds for psychological disorders but bipolar disorder is definitely chemical and there is no other way to control it.
A lot of people think that the manic phases are the bad ones but the other side of the pendulum can be just as scary. I hope you are strong enough to be friends with himm. A lot of people with psychological problem have a really hard keeping friends beause people don't understand and are put off by the behaviors. Unfortunately, until there is a correct dosage of meds, that's par for the course.
If his meds make him a zombie he should have them adjusted. It sometimes takes a while to find the right balance but it can be done. I had a client who had bipolar and paranoid schizophrenia and if she didn't tell you, you wouldn't know. If he constantly goes off his meds, that's a major problem. I don't advocate meds for psychological disorders but bipolar disorder is definitely chemical and there is no other way to control it.
A lot of people think that the manic phases are the bad ones but the other side of the pendulum can be just as scary. I hope you are strong enough to be friends with himm. A lot of people with psychological problem have a really hard keeping friends beause people don't understand and are put off by the behaviors. Unfortunately, until there is a correct dosage of meds, that's par for the course.
I don't have a problem being friends with him and who knows maybe down the line i'll become more comfortable pursuing a relationship with him.
A person can't be perfect but.... First, no one is perfect. Second, you've already broken up once, you are answering your own question. No, you should not get back with him. In my line of work, I'm exposed to patients who often are bi-polar. There are more times than not they have weeks even months of excellent behavior and medication compliance but there are days they convince themselves there is nothing wrong, they go off their meds and things can sometimes turn ugly so while you are second guessing yourself now, just remember that there is NO perfect and yes, there will be behavior issues.
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I dated this guy who was perfect, In spite of the fact that he was bipolar. he proposed to me last christmas, and I said no because I'm not sure if I can deal with the symptoms that go along with this disorder. This is a serious disorder and even properly medicated people can have severe episodes. It would sometimes get to a point where I would be afraid for my life; not to mention my own sanity. I feel torn because there would be weeks when he would be perfectly normal and I am still in love with him.
Didn't you say your a med school student?
Have had a couple bipolar ppl in my life, they need a lot of monitoring on the meds
for levels they can tolerate, sometimes means hospitalization for observation.
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Originally Posted by NYchi
I dated this guy who was perfect, In spite of the fact that he was bipolar. he proposed to me last christmas, and I said no because I'm not sure if I can deal with the symptoms that go along with this disorder. This is a serious disorder and even properly medicated people can have severe episodes. It would sometimes get to a point where I would be afraid for my life; not to mention my own sanity. I feel torn because there would be weeks when he would be perfectly normal and I am still in love with him.
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