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Unfortunately, at 55 I still have the same raging hormones I had as a teenager ..... but with my wife's health issues, more than once a month would seem like an orgy ......... but I'm not looking elsewhere; I'm not mentally, emotionally, or spiritually capable of an affair ... physically, no problems there
If you have ever gone on a fast you will notice how easy it is to go with out eating the longer that you fast. I think our brain steps in and removes some of the pain of not eating. In my experience its the same with sex.
In another post there was a reply that said something about not having sex was deal breaker in a marriage.
I have been married for 10 years (almost) and I was very sexually active in my younger years and before I was married. However, for "whatever" reason sex has become less and less important to me.
People may say that sex brings people closer together but I feel that my husband and I are very close without it. In fact, I cannot imagine that we would be any closer. When we were first married, of course we had sex much more often, and our relationship is much better now then it was then.
I love my husband very much and would do anything in the world for him (including having sex, when he wishes), but I do not have any desire for it. Which is not the same thing as not having desire for HIM. I simply am not terribly interested in that aspect of our relationship.
I am wondering, just out of curiosity what other people think about it as it relates to their own life/relationships.
20yrsinBranson
Just a bit of advice - consider getting your hormone levels checked. This sounds like a medical problem, and you don't want it to become a marital one
If I just wanted companionship, I would get a dog...a lot less trouble. Of course, I would want sex in a relationship. Otherwise, I would not be in one.
In another post there was a reply that said something about not having sex was deal breaker in a marriage.
I have been married for 10 years (almost) and I was very sexually active in my younger years and before I was married. However, for "whatever" reason sex has become less and less important to me.
People may say that sex brings people closer together but I feel that my husband and I are very close without it. In fact, I cannot imagine that we would be any closer. When we were first married, of course we had sex much more often, and our relationship is much better now then it was then.
I love my husband very much and would do anything in the world for him (including having sex, when he wishes), but I do not have any desire for it. Which is not the same thing as not having desire for HIM. I simply am not terribly interested in that aspect of our relationship.
I am wondering, just out of curiosity what other people think about it as it relates to their own life/relationships.
20yrsinBranson
I do not judge how others live their lives, whatever works. For me personally, I like sex and would not be happy with someone who would not have sex with me. My ex-husband and I had this problem (AND many others), I felt like he was holdling out on me, withholding an important part of a healthy relationship from me. It was a HUGE sticking point in our relationship. It got to the point where he actually created fights in order to avoid having sex with me.
If I just wanted companionship, I would get a dog...
If you want just companionship with absolutely no sex involved, not only is it better to get a dog but it is also financially cheaper to take care of a dog than it is to take care of a wife. You do not have to worry about your dog going on a shopping spree and maxing out your credit cards.
I think it depends on the couple, as a previous poster stated.
Throughout our marriage, I've had hormone imbalances, DH has had bouts of depression, and hard times have hit.
Through all of that roller coaster in life, we've remained very close with or without sex. However, sometimes we want to "reconnect" in that loving way, and that's the funnest way to do it. We're cuddly people, so that naturally happens anyway....
that and we're still hot for each other. We're in our mid thirties, and that might change once I get my hysterectomy...but we'll cross that bridge when we get there.
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