Attracting one type when one is looking for another. (dating, women, husbands)

[nichirenx]

This is not a negative post about attracting losers, or those who are phyisically different than one;s preference.

As of right now I am not actively dating or even trying to. However I do enjoy reminiscing about when I did and talking about the subject.

When I was dating I preferred to date different people. And so I mainly wanted to meet women who did the same.
And I did meet a couple here and there.

But mainly I met women who were looking for husbands or long term commitments.
I mean after spending some time with them , for some reason the conversation would be steered by them towards the whole 'future' plans situation.

While my friends at the time, ended up meeting the sexually liberated women who just wanted to enjoy sex and good times with guys without all the attachments.

Even when I met women who seemed like the type I was looking for, something always changed.

I acted pretty much just like my friends. Rambunctious, daring, rebellious, etc. But still I seemed to always meet the 'settling down' types.

I can and have been in a couple of committed relationships, but after about 6 months to a year I ended them because i wanted to experience the companionship of a new lady.

I just always wondered why in the heck did I always seem to catch those types. Looking back I cannot see what I did, if anything, to make them feel I was that type.

Especially since my finances are at best mediocre.
And this past December, a lady non-sexual friend of 6 years told me we had to either get together or she never wanted to speak to me again.

Which was a blow because she was the first person who I shared personal things with who knew me in person.

I digress.

Any thoughts ?

[Dorrans]

I welcome all types of women if they are compatible with me, but curvy and full figured women usually catch my eye. And I get the total opposite - I get a slim tall blond Canadian model. I'm also usually quite stereotypical about those type of women, but she won me over and impressed me big time. Very intellectual and articulate - and just as politically incorrect and annoying as me.

If she didn't come over and chatted me up and ask me out, I would not have been with her now.

[thatsong64]

I think most women are the "settling down types". Even if they don't want to be or think they arent going to be.

[nichirenx]

Originally Posted by Dorrans

I welcome all types of women if they are compatible with me, but curvy and full figured women usually catch my eye. And I get the total opposite - I get a slim tall blond Canadian model. I'm also usually quite stereotypical about those type of women, but she won me over and impressed me big time. Very intellectual and articulate - and just as politically incorrect and annoying as me.

If she didn't come over and chatted me up and ask me out, I would not have been with her now.

I have never been particular about looks unless a woman was morbidly obese or looked like the medical standard of mentally handicapped.