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Old 03-29-2010, 08:08 AM
 
Location: Orlando
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Why even ask the question, move on and drop him. He apparently isnt worth the time of day and me spending this much type is too much...
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Old 03-29-2010, 09:48 AM
 
Location: Toledo
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Why, you ask. Because, If Im going to be the 'girl in the other fort', then I need compensation. They basically want an 'escort' to give them sex and have as arm candy to dates and such. Thats fine, but dont expect me to do all of that just because you toss me a dinner and some cheap ass drinks! And then, later on at the bar they are all kissed and hugged on some other girl. N-n-noooo!

I introduce that guy to a girl the last time we hung out at a bar. Next thing I know, they are making out in the corner That right there was enough to kick his ASS to the Muh Fuh... curb!
This explains everything.
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Old 03-31-2010, 03:45 AM
 
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if it was after,why would you see a guy again,who invites you somewhere and does not pay for your hotel...did you sleep separately..why did you not leave immediatelly?
Like I said...I really dont know what the relationship was. I guess because we met in the nightclub, and had great conversation and all that...and later in the week he invited me to his place.

I dont know why I got so caught up with him. Perhaps we were just great conversation buddies and that was it. He also made all these empty promises about flying me out to Florida, doing a photography session...blah blah blah. Non of it materialized.

This was like the last 'test' to see how he really was. I wont say I wasted nearly 2 years with this guy, but I will say it was basically a going no-where relationship and I finally got tired of it, and I think he got tired of it to because Im too independent...not like these typical needy ******* he hooks up with.

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Prostitution is illegal in most states, be careful putting this out on the internet as sometimes the Police act upon solicitations or admissions of crimes.
I wasn't talking about prostitution, dont go putting words on my screen!

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As far as the rest of it, when you found out about his girlfriend it may have been wise to cut him off.
I know that...

I will admit though, that part of it was my mistake to begin with. I approached him, and he fell in love with me. But then later on it turned out that he falls in love with every young Black girl with a big ass that crosses his sight. He's like some kind of young Black needy woman magnet...

And someone mentioned I must have been a young needy woman at some point? Yes, thats true...I admit. When I met him I was 20 years old, had just lost my apartment...and was going thru a turmoil in my life. I was also trying to find myself again, and figure out who I was and what I wanted. Older men were attractive to me back then because I felt a certain sense of security...which of course they never gave because they were womanizers. When situation arose, they would never be around to help out anyway. Thats why I stopped dealing with certain types of older men for good, unless they were about business. That was back in 2008.

Fast forward to 2010, I have moved on from that stage...I dont even associate with older men anymore like that. I dont meet them from the bars or online to have drinks or dinner or anything...No matter how nice they sound because most of them who go after younger women are womanizers...and they use money to get these needy girls to be running all after them, and they love that. And in the end, they go after the next girl and the next girl...like 18 year olds. And they arent even giving these girls money...they just using their cars and cheap dinners and these girls are all of a sudden falling at their feet

So I guess the moment he realized I wouldnt be needing to stay at his place for an entire week...and that I had my own money to get my own place elsewhere and wouldnt be giving him constant blow jobs...he decided to move on
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Old 03-31-2010, 03:54 AM
 
Location: southern california
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no they are attracted to women, if they are older they got money, that explains the encouragement but not the foolish pursuit. in memphis if you show too much attention to young women the other men will set you straight, "thats kinda like a dawg chasin a car aint it?".
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Old 03-31-2010, 07:38 AM
 
Location: Fuquay Varina
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I wasn't talking about prostitution, dont go putting words on my screen!
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Because, If Im going to be the 'girl in the other fort', then I need compensation. They basically want an 'escort' to give them sex and have as arm candy to dates and such. Thats fine, but dont expect me to do all of that just because you toss me a dinner and some cheap ass drinks!

Compensation for sex is prostitution. You may not walk the corner, you might not have a pimp, but getting paid for sex is still prostitution lol
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