I thought this forum would be good for this, I'd love some input. Nothing anyone says would ever change my mind regarding this topic, I'm just looking for some opinions and what not, I would love to know if I'm off my rocker... or on my rocker.
Scenario-
My best friend (David) is gay. His partner (of over 6 years now) is Scott.. they were recently engaged (woohoo!) and will be getting married next year sometime (we live in NY where gay marriage is recognized, but they will have to go a few hours over to another northeastern state to tie the knot).
I'm married, I have been for almost 6 years (will be 6 years in July!)- we have one little girl who just turned 4. I love my husband with everything.. he's my rock, my love, my.. everything. NEVER have I thought about betraying him, never could I even imagine doing so.. we're perfectly fine in our marriage, and absolutely happy.
My husband sometimes works a night shift (which is 1:30pm to 11:30pm) and during these nights David (best friend) will sometimes come over to keep daughter and I company. He'll have dinner with us (and even do my dishes! LOL), he'll play with my daughter, read her a bed story.. he loves her!! Then we often watch a movie together and just relax and enjoy eachothers company.
My family (i.e. parents) have a HUGE problem with this, and make it known. They don't feel he should be over when my husband is not home. They have 2 issues... the first being we cuddle, and we even peck eachother on the lips (it's when we first see eachother.. like a "hey!!! how are you?" best friend kiss).. they have a serious (!) issue that I may lay my head on his shoulder when we watch a movie. Dave is a very "clingy" emotional like guy, it's just who he is. He's touchy feely.. and it's NOT "in THAT way" .. he's gay for cripes sake.
The biggest issue they have is David and I USED to be together- we dated, we were eachothers "firsts" for many things. But, we were 16 years OLD (I'm almost 31 now, as is he).. he was 'testing the waters' so to speak.. thinking he was perhaps having feelings for men, but very afraid at that particular age to "think like that" and sort of hid it.. and so we had a relationship for a bit.
Do YOU find anything wrong with him coming to my house to watch a movie when the hubby is gone? For the record- I obviously have to add this... my husband does NOT care. He's friends with David, knows our past, knows we "had a thing" together when we were 16, he knows it all. I can give David a "hi, how are you?" kiss in front of my husband and he would never blink an eye. He just doesn't care.
David loves his partner (as do I, btw... I'm also very close to him).. I mean, they're getting MARRIED. They are *gay*. I'm married, I love my husband more than life itself. None of this is romantic.. we're just best friends who mean the WORLD to eachother and we show in a different way that is perhaps "taboo" to some people (I find mostly an older generation).
Opinions? Like I said, I would never change who I am... I won't stop having him over. But, it would be nice to know at least a FEW people out there don't see an issue with the whole thing. I'm beginning to think I'm crazy
(geez, sorry so long)
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