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problem relationships. It seems that alot of times people have issues- it really is about control- husband and wife- (one who usually starts the argument) or then you have the passive-aggressive husband who tries to get you to start an argument-
I noticed if I dont react the way he thinks I will- he gets frustrated
I think my husband enjoys antagonizing me. He likes to look for hidden meanings in EVERYTHING I say, and make even innocent conversation fertile ground for an argument. His mother is exactly the same way. Did I mention we are staying with his folks while we are house hunting????
problem relationships. It seems that alot of times people have issues- it really is about control- husband and wife- (one who usually starts the argument) or then you have the passive-aggressive husband who tries to get you to start an argument-
I noticed if I dont react the way he thinks I will- he gets frustrated
I guess reverse psycholgy works at times-
what does everyone else think?
This is why I am single. My home has to be a place of sanctuary...anyone who wants to fight, cause general unrest is not welcome...I'm not saying everyone should leave their partners, I am only saying this is a condition that I personally can't, won't deal with.
I think Im lucky to have a wife who does not like to fight. I would not care to live with someone who I argued with. Life is too short.
To provide a contrast, my ex and I never had a single fight, and I don't think that was a good thing at all. It's not that we never disagreed- we did, often. It's that our relationship wasn't healthy enough to withstand a frank and honest exchange of views.
This is why I am single. My home has to be a place of sanctuary...anyone who wants to fight, cause general unrest is not welcome...I'm not saying everyone should leave their partners, I am only saying this is a condition that I personally can't, won't deal with.
Lisa i lived in a sanctuary once too- unfortunately a relationship involves other people and other emotions. IMHO that is why marriage sometimes doesnt work- selfishness.
My brother told me- you have to trust someone sometime- I did- and it went sour- we didnt argue either- it was more the blame game.
My hubby and I don't fight, but we also don't play the blame game or the tit-for-tat game either. As for control issues ... I control the checkbook. Heaven help us if he did
Lisa i lived in a sanctuary once too- unfortunately a relationship involves other people and other emotions. IMHO that is why marriage sometimes doesnt work- selfishness.
My brother told me- you have to trust someone sometime- I did- and it went sour- we didnt argue either- it was more the blame game.
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That is precisely why I'm not in one right now...I need some peace...AND I am doing would be partners a favor, it would be HELL to live with me because of what I am saying.
That is considerate of you then. My STBX should do the world a favor and never marry ever again.
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