37 year old virgin needs help (looking, honest, rich, people)

[betamanlet]

Originally Posted by Dub D

...sigh. No one will encourage you at the gym. The hardest part about going to the gym is getting there! I mean, its SO much easier just staying home relaxing.

Don't worry about bench pressing and lifting weights. I go to the gym regularly and lift weights because I like being able to do pullups and pushups not so I can show off how much I can bench press. Dudes showing off how much they can press are showing off to other dudes...gay.

Just as long as you are in decent shape. I do think you should excerise regularly, it will improve your attitude.

I've been incredibly strong and muscular and it doesn't help the slightest with women unless you have the alpha attitude.

[DANNYY]

Originally Posted by ny101

I'm a 37 year old virgin in New York City. I got picked on relentlessly in school and went into a shell and gave up any hope of marriage and children or even a relationship until last December.

I worked up the courage to join an internet dating website late last year and finally got the courage to ask some women out. The three dates I've had did not work out. Two ended with them complimenting me but not wanting to see me again.

I'm of average height 5-10.5, dress decently, have no missing teeth, have a decent job and a few friends. The lack of any type of sexual experience stands out I know.

I just read some posts about women not wanting to date virgins and see someone said the age of no return for a male virgin is 30 which was 7 years ago for me. Is that true? Am I too late? I will not go to a prostitute under any circumstances no matter how horny I feel so don't ask.

I dream of having a family and moving out to Long Island. Please be honest. Is it realistic?

Absolutely, but you need to make some adjustments to yourself first.

Try to be more confident in yourself, be happy with who you are, it lets other people know that you're happy being who you are, and that you are approachable.

Try, going out more often with friends, meeting new people, and interacting with them, establishing more friendships, and NYC is a big place. You'll meet tons of great people everyday if you give it a chance.

Make sure you're being yourself, and not someone else. Make sure you show people that you're willing to trust them, and they will in return trust you as well.

Don't worry about being boring, honestly the people that do worry about that always have to much on their mind, and let opportunities pass right by them. Talk about things that interest you, and ask them what interests them as well, when they tell you, strike a conversation about the things they like/dislike, and as to why they like it, and if you can try to establish any personal experience with what they're saying. Remember though, not to be critical and over the top, be polite and be respectful of their thoughts and opinions.

You'll do fine, but only if you believe that you have it in you to do great. Just got to keep working on that confidence!

[ny101]

Originally Posted by Dub D

You are right, I didn't. However, don't you think holding onto what people said back in high school is wrong? I mean, I can care less what people said to me last week! I think before you seriously consider dating, you need to seek therapy.

You stating that I am "a bit gay" was uncalled for and makes me suspect about the rest of your suggestions. I can fix all my problems in therapy and then it will be "38, 39 or maybe 40 year old virgin". I'm already seeing a therapist by the way.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by ny101

I'm a 37 year old virgin in New York City. I got picked on relentlessly in school and went into a shell and gave up any hope of marriage and children or even a relationship until last December.

I worked up the courage to join an internet dating website late last year and finally got the courage to ask some women out. The three dates I've had did not work out. Two ended with them complimenting me but not wanting to see me again.

I'm of average height 5-10.5, dress decently, have no missing teeth, have a decent job and a few friends. The lack of any type of sexual experience stands out I know.

I just read some posts about women not wanting to date virgins and see someone said the age of no return for a male virgin is 30 which was 7 years ago for me. Is that true? Am I too late? I will not go to a prostitute under any circumstances no matter how horny I feel so don't ask.

I dream of having a family and moving out to Long Island. Please be honest. Is it realistic?

Um...if what you are saying is true, you shouldn't have any problems getting a women.

[ny101]

Originally Posted by Lucario

A 37-year-old virgin with no dating experience is simply not going to be able to fake confidence. Swagger? Persona? Attitude?

Not likely.

This is the challenge I am facing. I must defeat this challenge somehow.

[DANNYY]

Originally Posted by ny101

This is the challenge I am facing. I must defeat this challenge somehow.

Haha I don't think you should see life as a challenge, but more over as an opportunity.

[betamanlet]

Originally Posted by ny101

This is the challenge I am facing. I must defeat this challenge somehow.

Staying in NY isn't going to help you. If you are in Manhattan, not only do you need game, but you need money and status. Something tells me that a 37 year old virgin has neither of those either.

[betamanlet]

Originally Posted by OmShahi

Haha I don't think you should see life as a challenge, but more over as an opportunity.

Imagine being a 37 year old virgin. Today, it's a miracle if a girl makes it to 17 a virgin. Now add 20 years to that. I didn't get laid until I was 27. It really weighs a lot on your soul.

[ny101]

Originally Posted by betamanlet

Staying in NY isn't going to help you. If you are in Manhattan, not only do you need game, but you need money and status. Something tells me that a 37 year old virgin has neither of those either.

How much money and status?

[betamanlet]

Originally Posted by ny101

How much money and status?

are you in manhattan?If you are not a college student, you need to either be really slick, or be rich. There's not much middle ground. Even people I know who went to NYU, Columbia, etc, they said that many of the girls there wouldn't date college guys and would date wall street types. Fortunately I ddin't go to school there and you could be poor and eat ramen and women would date you.