37 year old virgin needs help (jealous, couple, sleeping, feeling)

[FrmlyBklyn]

Originally Posted by Onglet39

Actually, my husband used to tease me by saying I had "back fat." I developed a complex over it. In fact, it led to the end of our sex lives.

Unfortunately, both genders can be equally nasty in their own special way.

What the heck is "back fat"? I've heard of spare tires, love handles, but back fat?

[Dub D]

Originally Posted by betamanlet

I've been incredibly strong and muscular and it doesn't help the slightest with women unless you have the alpha attitude.

I didnt have the alpha attitude until I was like 20. I still got laid...a few times. I will say, it definitely decreases the amount.

Originally Posted by ny101

You stating that I am "a bit gay" was uncalled for and makes me suspect about the rest of your suggestions. I can fix all my problems in therapy and then it will be "38, 39 or maybe 40 year old virgin". I'm already seeing a therapist by the way.

Look, you posted this on here to get real life advice not "its ok, you are still young". I'm giving you advice as if I'm talking to my friend 15 years from now. I have a strong feeling he is going to marry the first chick he bones. I'm not quite sure you act like girls are superior. I had that attitude when I was younger. My car wasn't the best, my room was small, etc. Sounds like you have a stable job and make decent enough living. What is holding you back now?

[Albuquerque101]

Please do not consider getting a mentor. Seriously. Think about it. What would a woman want to hear more? (A) I am a virgin or (B) I was worried about being a virgin so I got this cougar to teach me the ropes -- now I am ready to please you!?! Seriously, it is creepy.

I can only assume that you have some friends your age who are happily married and have children right now. Look at the couples you want to be like and consider how the husbands act, talk, and live their lives. Learn something from them. I bet they did not snag their wives by being the best in bed.

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by ny101

This is the challenge I am facing. I must defeat this challenge somehow.

You are among friends. Seriously.

[JBT1980]

Dont tell em youre a virign theyll head for the hills..

Social proof and status are extremely improtant with women.

Plus GOOD sex is as or more improtant to women in a relationship then Men in a way..

I know two girls recently who broke up with guys and got back with dbag ex's because they were good in bed and their current boyfriend was not..

[JBT1980]

Originally Posted by NorCal Dude

Okay I am going to give you the best advice a modern man can give you. Get a hooker.

You can do one of two things, listen to the women on this forum and not get laid, or listen to us guys and get laid.

These woman on this board, some of them, they just give advice on what they think a man should do, but their advice is not rational, logical, or practical.

First and foremost when it comes to sexual performance, woman are not tolerant creatures like men(once they get into their 20's), in fact they can be quite cruel(crazy right, to be cruel when one is most vunerable). When a woman does not know how to perform,during that get to know each others bodies phase, she just lays there, no problem, guys go to town anyways, and are happy. Very rarely do you hear a guy complaining because she 'just lay there'.

Woman on the other hand will fuss, curse, pout, make you feel like absolute garbage and not worthy of being a human if you do not perform "up to their standards". Its women who break up with men because they "dont satisfy my needs" etc.

And whats worse, women LOVE to gossip. Co workers, neighbors, friends, familiy, clergy, national tv, nothing is off limits to level of humiliation you will endure because you " did not satisfy her needs"

Im sorry to be honest, but you are just setting yourself up for failure. Worst case scenario you get bamboozeld out of the bedroom and everyone will find out, best case she will keep you around for companionship but will seek sexual satisfaction else where, as you wont be able to satisfy her.

So get a hooker.

1 If you are honest they will not laugh at you, and infact, unlike most women, they will be sympathetic and understanding, not disgusted
2You learn on your own time
3It is private, no one will ever know

Im not saying go down the street and find a toothless wonder, but maybe check out the bunny ranch in vegas or take a trip to holland. Some of those hookers dont look too bad and they are very clean and professional about it.

If you take the mens advice and get a hooker, one day, when you are on your death bed you will be thankful.

The womens advice, well good luck with that.

100% true

My friends wife was gossiping to us the other day about her male friend who was going out on few dates with a girl who sort of an acquantance of her female social circle and she talked about about how she told her how bad in bed he is..

Everyone knows now just becasue he wasnt superman in bed..Women have no class when it comes to this thing..Theyll tell everyone in the world how bad u are in bed and leave you..

Women are vicious with that stuff..

[temptation001]

Originally Posted by JBT1980

100% true

My friends wife was gossiping to us the other day about her male friend who was going out on few dates with a girl who sort of an acquantance of her female social circle and she talked about about how she told her how bad in bed he is..

Everyone knows now just becasue he wasnt superman in bed..Women have no class when it comes to this thing..Theyll tell everyone in the world how bad u are in bed and leave you..

Women are vicious with that stuff..

Sometimes, women will say a man is bad in bed to her friends, just so they don't go sleeping with him during or after their relationship.

[JBT1980]

Originally Posted by temptation001

Sometimes, women will say a man is bad in bed to her friends, just so they don't go sleeping with him during or after their relationship.

The girl left the guy she said was bad in bed..

Women have to tell the world what happens in the "privacy" of their bedroom

[temptation001]

Originally Posted by JBT1980

The girl left the guy she said was bad in bed..

Women have to tell the world what happens in the "privacy" of their bedroom

How long were they together. Just curious.

[JBT1980]

Originally Posted by temptation001

How long were they together. Just curious.

Not even offically going out i just thought it was classless to air that info out especially since she liked him as a person i can see if he was a jerk..