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I've never been and I don't really subscribe to marital counseling. However, if it's going to have a chance at working, BOTH parties have to be receptive to it, otherwise you're spinning your wheels and throwing your money away.
Good Marriage? Would you consider marriage counseling to make your marriage even stronger?
If someone already has a good marriage, going to a counselor would be an extreme waste of time and money. If there are any issues to work on, those in GOOD MARRIAGES work solve them TOGETHER. They dont use or need any external influences to help.
I knew someone once who was a marriage counselor and he told me that by the time the couple went to him the marriage was already in such bad shape that his job was almost impossible. The marriage counselor would have preferred that the couples would have come to him when their marriage was still basically strong but needed some fine tuning.
Have you been to a marriage counselor and would you consider going to one if your marriage was basically good? Or would you wait until there was serious problems?
I wouldn't go to a marriage counselor for any reason. I know myself better than a counselor knows me, I don't have to make him/her happy, I've just got to make myself and my spouse happy. How I live my life is not a counselor's business. I've done enough reading to know what makes a relationship good, and what tears a relationship apart. I don't need anyone's help to do either.
I knew someone once who was a marriage counselor and he told me that by the time the couple went to him the marriage was already in such bad shape that his job was almost impossible. The marriage counselor would have preferred that the couples would have come to him when their marriage was still basically strong but needed some fine tuning.
Have you been to a marriage counselor and would you consider going to one if your marriage was basically good? Or would you wait until there was serious problems?
Of course the marriage counselor would say that. More money for him!
I can think of 100 things I'd sooner spend my money on.
I don't think marriage counseling is needed however individual counseling is a different story. A lot of people don't know THEMSELVES and have things they need to work on before getting involved with someone else. There are a lot red flags that pop up BEFORE getting married but people ignore them thinking things will change after marriage which equals disaster. You also have those who marry for the wrong reasons then become surprised when the marriage fails. I think marriage counseling is a waste but there are lots of people who need individual counseling and should seek it before getting involved with someone.
IMHO, relationships require maintenance, tune-ups, inspections, and renewals [just like cars]. I make no qualms that I am not the easy person to deal with 24/7. If there was some issue that required some form of counselling or my spouse requested counselling, I would be open to the idea. People change and grow and various situations can have an impact on their feelings. Certainly, the preference would always be to deal with the issue from within prior to seeking third-party intervention.
I remember hearing, either in conversation or on television, that this couple actually attends therapy as a prevention method to larger problems. I thought that was an interesting perspective.
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