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Old 05-01-2010, 07:58 PM
 
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I'm not trying to be offensive, just trying to understand this better.

In my mind, why would anyone put themselves in a position where they don't have clear enough thinking to say no? Wouldn't females realize that some men like it when women drink because they might do sexual things they wouldn't otherwise do sober?

If they realize that, then get drunk, have sex, then claim "Oh I didn't mean for that to happen, I was drunk", then I don't know what to think.

I feel like that the drunk explanation is a cop out to make it seem like they aren't "easy."

But that's just my observation, I realize this isn't black and white. I guess this could apply to men too, but I'm trying to understand women better so...what do you think? Drunk excuse a cop-out or legitimate in most circumstances?
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Old 05-01-2010, 08:03 PM
 
Location: Rural Central Texas
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I have never been in the situation, so can only speculate. I have been told that inhibitions are lowered as result of intoxication. Given a less inhibited state, people will tend to act upon their desires without the caution those inhibitions impose.

Therefore, whenever someone does something when they are drunk it is always something they really wanted to do, but knew better until their inhibitions were removed. By that logic, girls who claim they have sex only because they are drunk and willingly become drunk must be doing so because they really want to have sex and are using alcohol as an excuse to do so without guilt.
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Old 05-01-2010, 08:12 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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99% of the time, yes.
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Old 05-01-2010, 08:22 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I ask my husband about this, and he said, it is a total cop out.
He said you drink for two reasons: To feel good and get laid.
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Old 05-01-2010, 08:48 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Alcohol enables you to be more of who you are.
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Old 05-01-2010, 08:52 PM
 
Location: Silver Springs, FL
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I ask my husband about this, and he said, it is a total cop out.
He said you drink for two reasons: To feel good and get laid.
Yep, its true!
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Old 05-01-2010, 08:52 PM
 
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I think saying you were drunk and had sex with someone you probably wouldn't have had you been sober....is legit.

However, saying you 'didn't realize it' is a cop out. How can you not know what's happening?
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Old 05-01-2010, 09:01 PM
 
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I think saying you were drunk and had sex with someone you probably wouldn't have had you been sober....is legit.

However, saying you 'didn't realize it' is a cop out. How can you not know what's happening?
Hmm I probably worded the title poorly.

I suppose if they were really so drunk perhaps they couldn't remember they did it? Like how people can't remember where they parked their car the next morning???
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Old 05-01-2010, 09:08 PM
 
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Sure, that's why people experience "blackouts."
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Old 05-01-2010, 09:14 PM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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It is on purpose.
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