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1. Feminazis and sadists bent on putting down any and every man who approaches, whether out of hatred or just for sport
2. Many women only want a man who is tall, rich, handsome, etc., and the odds are against that particular woman he's approaching is not like those other women (i.e., she's unreasonable, or most probably is)
3. Some men are sick and tired of approaching and just don't do it any longer, whether out of principle or just because they are sick of having a poor "batting average" and being put down by others for their failures; most of such men think porn is a decent solution because that way they have no games to play or put up with.
These topics are always funny to me, because I see a lot of guys write how no women scares them, and then there is the evidence. Two thirds of the internet is full of guys who approach anyone. All these guys seemed to disappear when two girls I knew were around. If they had to be in the area, they kept to themselves. From what I have seen, maybe 1 in 400 guys will approach anyone. Even these are favorable circumstances most of the time. Meaning, he is friends with guys who have dated her friends.
Numbers 1 and 2 are factors. Your chances of a strike out in front of friends or large crowds are high. In some circumstances, looks may not be the dominant fear factor for some people, but if you really like someone you will be really careful where you pick your spots. Sometimes, however, you need to any chance you can get.
I disagree with the posters that said a man should never approach a woman, he should let them approach him. If I see someone I like (unless she is with a guy), I go for it. This usually applies to the club/bar scene though, I usually don't feel comfortable approaching someone outside of that kind of scene. There is of course the issue with timing, and not looking too eager and desparate. Apparantly I don't fear rejection because I get rejected all the time yet it hasn't slowed me down.
When I'm drunk,I get approached way more than if I was sober,so that has to be wrong. But,I'm less shy with alcohol in my system and make frequent eye contact.
The guys in NYC don't seem to be too afraid to approach any women,and I don't know why.
some of us have gotten tired of being rejected too many times
Yeah, being rejected sucks, and it brings down your confidence level. I'm not sure why I've been getting rejected more lately (for about a year). I wonder if I became ugly all of a sudden since I'm getting older (almost 33). Or maybe it's just my unlucky year.
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