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Old 05-03-2010, 10:56 AM
 
Location: New Hampshire
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A month or two.
Just find other things to focus on and it will be easier.
I know this because a couple months ago I started a similar thread on here due to a failed marriage. People told me time would heal all the wounds and things would get better with time and I didn't believe them.
Well, I feel much better now. They were right
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Old 05-03-2010, 11:13 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Sorry to hear ONG....it will get better all the time, just hang in there. I went to add you as a friend on Facebook, but your name in your emails didn't show, you not a member there?
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Old 05-03-2010, 11:18 AM
 
Location: New Milford, NJ
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Sorry to hear ONG....it will get better all the time, just hang in there. I went to add you as a friend on Facebook, but your name in your emails didn't show, you not a member there?
I am, for some reason people have trouble finding me on facebook. If you DM me I will give you my full name and location so you can find me and friend me.
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Old 05-03-2010, 11:53 AM
 
Location: East Valley, AZ
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I am, for some reason people have trouble finding me on facebook. If you DM me I will give you my full name and location so you can find me and friend me.
Oooo...I will add you, too! Friends and a good support group make all the difference
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Old 05-03-2010, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Tha 6th Bourough
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Also, to whoever repped me and left me a message on the rep, you didn't leave your CD name so I can't PM you. If you are following this, I would gladly tell you my story, but you may need a day or two so be careful what you wish for!!

Actually that was me asking to hear about your story if you ever need to share with an experienced person...I've dealt with that pain you have 2 different times in my life...It was 2 different people I had to pick myself up and move on from over some years of depression and pain...

I know about being at the same job as the one who left me while she sat there, and hugged the other guy she started going with at work in front of me after letting me know I was only a rebound....

I know about sitting in my car trying to get to my next pizza delivery and having to pull over on the side of the road to cry after dropping off pizza to my customer...I sat there crying and with a really heavy chest...I cried for about 20 minutes that moment and had to pull myself together and get back to work on a sunny day when it seemed like everyone around me was happy and I was dying inside....so I'm here if you need to message me ok
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Old 05-03-2010, 02:04 PM
 
Location: New Milford, NJ
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Thank you RazorRob..
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Old 05-03-2010, 02:34 PM
 
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Is it days, weeks, months??? When will I stop feeling this way???

My heart actually hurts....I don't know what to do about it. I hate feeling this way....any suggestions?
A lot of people bury themselves in their work. I definitely wouldn't do that. Nor would I get back out there and start dating again, at least not until you've had time to heal and learn from the relationship that just ended. This is a good time to take stock of your life, figure out what it is you really want and what you need to do in order to achieve that. I would also take advantage of this time to reconnect to your son. I don't know if your son felt neglected while you were in a relationship. If he did, now is a good time to make up for that. This is also a good time to learn to enjoy being by yourself. A lot of time have a hard time being alone. They miss the sex and companionship that comes with being in a relationship. But learning to be happy on your own will only make any future relationship you have that much better, because you'll be approaching from the standpoint of wanting it as opposed to needing to fill some kind of void in your life.
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Old 05-03-2010, 02:44 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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Sorry you are having heartache onegreatnurse. What you are experiencing is similar to death and you have to allow yourself time to grieve and begin to move forward. The timing is different for everyone so there is no "set" amount. I would imagine the hardest part is just coming to terms with it being over, realizing all hope of getting back together is just gone.

So with that, it's ok to cry, scream, eat chocolate...whatever you need to do to start healing your heart again. The best remedy is time. With each day you will hurt a little less than the one before. Best wishes to you.
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Old 05-03-2010, 02:51 PM
 
Location: New Milford, NJ
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Thank you, seeniorita. Right now it's Xanax, and in a few days that may be replaced by MARGARITAS in stead of SEENIORITAS...lol..isn't that a drink too?
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Old 05-03-2010, 03:07 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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Thank you, seeniorita. Right now it's Xanax, and in a few days that may be replaced by MARGARITAS in stead of SEENIORITAS...lol..isn't that a drink too?
I don't know...never heard of it but hey, I'll take one too!! Watch that tequila girl...it can do a number on ya!
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