A 20 years old woman dating a 42 years old man?

[John-UK]

Originally Posted by WyoNewk

but one thing I know I wouldn't do is worry about the age difference. We connected because we enjoyed each other -- to the point of eventually falling in love. That's what relationships are based on. Everything else is unimportant details.

Love and short term flings and infatuations are not the same thing.

[WyoNewk]

Originally Posted by John-UK

The problems come when he is old, 70 to 75 and maybe in ill health, and she is fit and still youngish at 50 to 55....

Logical. But it doesn't always work that way either. My late wife was very health conscious -- exercised daily, ate healthy foods, kept a girlish figure -- and died suddenly at age 51. My current wife is 10 years younger than I. I'm probably in better health and will likely outlive her too.

[picklejuice]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

Not an especially good idea in the long term for either party.

This^^^^^

[WyoNewk]

Originally Posted by John-UK

Love and short term flings and infatuations are not the same thing.

Absolutely not. And you could say the same about love and marriage.

[John-UK]

Originally Posted by Albert_The_Crocodile

I just thank god every day that I threw "common sense" to the wind and followed my heart, because the whole first half century of my life feels now as though it was just a stage I had to go through to prepare me for my real life, the one I've been living the last 6 years. I can't imagine a life without her.

Albert I really hope it works. I really do. I hate to rain on your parade. I was married once. She was 13 years younger than me. She was very pretty and attractive and turned heads. She pursued me. I thought I had hit the jackpot when we married. I followed my heart and failed. She divorced me. I wish I had used common sense. Common sense was telling me "no" beforehand. It wasn't worth the heartache after. I was sort of getting it back together with an old university girlfriend. However, she died a few years ago but said before she died she never stopped loving me. Life can be full of lost opportunities and mistakes. Most of us never learn by them.

[John-UK]

Originally Posted by Nite Ryder

She was a beautiful, energetic woman who liked doing the same activities I did, telling her goodbye was the hardest thing I ever did in my life. Today I'm not sorry I married who I eventually married.

A very wise decision for both of you....and it did end right for you. I hope she ended up fine.

[meaning]

Originally Posted by Colddiamond102

My immediate thoughts?

A. EWWWWW!!!!!
B. He's a dirty old man
C. She's a golddigger or probably has daddy issues

Those are my immediate musings, since you asked for them

LOL. That was my opinion too before. I don't know if I 'matured' but now for me once you officially reached the legal age of 18, you can do whatever you want and marry whoever you want even if they're decades older/younger than you.

I don't think it's anyone's business. They're both adults. Whatever their reasons for marrying is their business and theirs ALONE!

If the younger girl married for the money, I just imagine what she's feeling everytime she does it with a wrinkled 'thing'. LOL.

And if he knowingly married her knowing she only wants his money. It's his money so honestly what does anyone cares if he lost it coz he was lonely.

I mean there's pre nup now anyway. And if they're really rich I believe that is always a must before the marriage.

[John-UK]

Originally Posted by meaning

If the younger girl married for the money, I just imagine what she's feeling everytime she does it with a wrinkled 'thing'. LOL.

If you marry for money you pay for it for the rest of your life.

[Nutz76]

Originally Posted by MogwaiLover217

I don't understand why do girls fall for guys old enough to be her Dad

A lot of it comes down to plain old evolution causing women to select for good providers. There's even a term for it: Hypergamy. Women marry up and select for men of status, which older men tend to have more of. More status, more confidence from life experience, more social connections, and so on. Just the way it goes.

[nearnorth]

This thread is four years old, so I guess by now they're 24 and 46. My response now is the same as it would have been four years ago: Who cares? They're consenting adults. If neither of the people in this relationship is you, it shouldn't matter to you.