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Living in the moment has advantages. One does not necessarily see everything but sees enough. I am fortunate to have spent time with her when times were good and more fortunate to realize that that this forum contains many wonderful adults who care. That is a big win for me. Trust at some point requires a leap of faith and I took one when I asked for help. I got more than I ever thought that I would from your replyies and your intelligent thoughtfulness.
A final follow up to the people who helped. Her "coldness" came across more and more each time we chatted this past week. I thanked her for the time we spent together and let her know that I really enjoyed some of our adventures. She said that she was grateful to have met me....
A good learning; a door left partly open with a curtain and a new one somewhere opening yet to be discovered.
I recently began dating again. I am seeing a very bright woman. When we are together we have great times but frequently she makes comments which are designed to prompt me to say something or agree with her on an issue. Though I find her attractive she presses me to comment on her looks. She also tries to control activities and seems pressed or under pressure to get things done and I am just there as an activity. That is different from a friend who cares about me as an individual something I find easy to do for her.
I have had relationships where a woman tries to make the man fit into the spot she has defined and found that I am unhappy as being liked is the first step not fitting her expectations.
She keeps me at arms length in the rest of her life and I am growing weary of this as well. I go back and forth but when we do activities they are really great times.
Any advice appreciated =)
RUN LIKE HEX!!!!!
SERIOUSLY!
I am married to someone like this.
When you want to go out to do something she will make you feel awful for leaving her. She will complain about this and that.
You will be miserable.
When you are talking about someone else and the accomplishments they have made she will jump in and say stuff like..."LIKE ME?!!??"
I recently began dating again. I am seeing a very bright woman. When we are together we have great times but frequently she makes comments which are designed to prompt me to say something or agree with her on an issue. Though I find her attractive she presses me to comment on her looks. She also tries to control activities and seems pressed or under pressure to get things done and I am just there as an activity. That is different from a friend who cares about me as an individual something I find easy to do for her.
I have had relationships where a woman tries to make the man fit into the spot she has defined and found that I am unhappy as being liked is the first step not fitting her expectations.
She keeps me at arms length in the rest of her life and I am growing weary of this as well. I go back and forth but when we do activities they are really great times.
Any advice appreciated =)
DUMP HER
find someone who isnt insecure..and someone who will truly care for you
you can do great things with someone who will appreciate you
> I thanked her for the time we spent together and let her know that I really enjoyed some of our adventures. She said that she was grateful to have met me....
Nicely done, AADAD. You are a class act and a true gentleman. Too bad things didn't work out but now you are free to find a women who will appreciate all you have to offer. Best of luck to you!
She called on Friday and went all scary. It is no fun seeing another person's damage.....To bad. Patting myself on the back and thanking you good people for the ups.
She called on Friday and went all scary. It is no fun seeing another person's damage.....To bad. Patting myself on the back and thanking you good people for the ups.
As they say you dodged a bullet...lil' psyhco huh?
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