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I think the key is that you better get to know a person before you get serious. If you feel you need to do a background check on a person then you need to ask why your even thinking of getting serious in the first place but if you feel the person is hiding something then spend $30.00 and check them out, you may find your feelings are right and avoid a disaster.
If you were on a date with someone and they went back to your apartment, you never leave your wallet out where they might see it?? Thats how I would find the information.
I requested that they don't put my SSN on my drivers license when I got a new one. You won't find my SSN in my wallet.
Also, if I catch my date snooping, I would be pissed. And this is coming from someone who really has nothing to hide. How would you feel if I snooped into your purse?
So don't take this to personal....I hear your concerns and understand them very well...but you must also consider ours...dating in an unstable world and hearing a whole lot of scary stories from others that date. Men as well as women.
I understand your concerns, and they are valid.
However, I refuse to pay for another man's misdeeds when I get into a new relationship. If a woman holds another man's misdeeds over my head, she will be dumped instantly.
IF my partner wants to do a background check on me, she should tell me BEFORE she does it. I'm still not sure how I'd react, but I would appreciate her honesty hundred times over than if she tried to do it secretly and get away with it. But then there'd be trust issues down the road anyway.
Better to just meet each other's friends and families. If there's something not right about someone, then there'll be red flags.
yes, you are perhaps correct....and it is certainly nice to hear a man's perspective on it....
Never once did I search my son's room when he was growing up. I'd made up my mind early on, that if I ever felt the need to do so, he would be present and I'd explain to him why.....
and yes, if I met someone, whom I really cared for, and wanted to explore a relationship of a more serious nature, I would ask him how he felt about me doing some checks? I believe I'd like to see his initial reaction to my question.
You have made some very good points.
Thank you
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If you were on a date with someone and they went back to your apartment, you never leave your wallet out where they might see it?? Thats how I would find the information.
Wow. Are you serious? You'd actually rifle through some guys wallet???
I'm just trying to better understand your reasoning....
That would be like going through someones mail, which is highly illegal.
If I caught someone going through my stuff they would be escorted to the door.
I have nothing to hide.
DCNative, I agree with you. Take your time, get to know the person, meet the friends and family, etc. I would never go through someon'es wallet or expect someone to go through my purse. That's a violation and I would not tolerate it.
Wow. Are you serious? You'd actually rifle through some guys wallet???
I'm just trying to better understand your reasoning....
That would be like going through someones mail, which is highly illegal.
If I caught someone going through my stuff they would be escorted to the door.
I have nothing to hide.
I wouldn't rifle someones wallet, I can find out all I need without a SSN...I was just pointing out that it would be easily done, or someone rifling a purse...most people don't think about that.
You'd be surprised how much information people give out about themselves in casual conversation...
ATTENTION SINGLE LADIES ON C.D.:
Have done my own background check.
1)speeding on 7-3-1999 Maine,found guilty and fined $120
2) failure to stop at stop sign Utah, 1-28-1992,found guilty and fined$65
Am in good physical health,but was unable to find any on line medical site to verify. Am unable/unwillingto perform own physical.
See I come with papers!
LOL! You are so funny. Thanks for giving me a good laugh this afternoon! I'll give you a rep for that one.
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to perform own physical.
