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I got a reply from a young lady on a dating site. She made remarks about liking my profile and appears she wanted to move forward. No problem there.
The issue comes in, she had 3 photos of herself on her profile and all 3 were of here sitting in a wheelchair. I am not interested in dating someone that uses a wheelchair to get around. I'm sorry, I know it sounds cold hearted but, it's just not a pill I can swallow.
I got a reply from a young lady on a dating site. She made remarks about liking my profile and appears she wanted to move forward. No problem there.
The issue comes in, she had 3 photos of herself on her profile and all 3 were of here sitting in a wheelchair. I am not interested in dating someone that uses a wheelchair to get around. I'm sorry, I know it sounds cold hearted but, it's just not a pill I can swallow.
What are you thoughts?
Yes, it makes you narrow-minded, but on one hand, I must be, too. I don't think I could handle someone with a disability so debilitating as that. It's just not something I have the energy for...
Call that shallow, whatever...but, we all have our limits.
That said, I wouldn't rule someone out entirely because of a disability. I'd certainly give them a chance. You never know what could happen. If they had an accident when you were married and ended up in a wheelchair, you'd still love them, no doubt.
I think you should be glad she was honest and felt comfortable enough about her disability to show her true self. I am sure she doesn't want anyone who would reject a disabled person.
She didn't try to lead you on or play games until you were hooked to reveal this information.
Are you narrow minded? No, I don't think so. If this is a 'no negotiations' thing for you, then it is...some people would not want to date a deaf person or someone with one leg, or a person with mental health issues and this is their perogative.
Have you passed up a great person? Maybe. Or maybe not.
Should you just ignore her? Well, no. What to say? I don't know. Maybe someone out there on CD who uses a chair can be more help.
Nothing wrong with that Ron. You have to be honest with yourself about what you want and where your boundaries lie. You don't need to feel bad or shallow just because you choose not to date someone who is bound to a wheelchair.
Agreed...its unfortunate for the handicapped person but I know for myself, I'm a very outdoorsy person and I wanted a woman that shared my same interests such as hiking, snowboarding, and tennis which I've found in my fiancee. Its just something I can't do with a handicapped person and thats really all there is to it.
In this instance, no. People can't help their preferences. I suppose her feelings were hurt because she called you "narrow minded" But dating (online or otherwise) is not for the faint of heart, nor the thin of skin.
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